Guilt

[mrsswinnydm]

Guilt. What a bastard it is. Having a massive flare up that I knew was coming from last week when I could literally feel my stomach swelling. So move forward to today and I can barely move. But I have kids who I feel guilty for not being able to do much with today. Thankfully my husband is wonderful and taking care of them and me. Guilt. That my husband is having to do all this because I can barely move. Guilt. That it sounds like I’m moaning - not everyone with this hideous illness has someone to help them or even able to have kids. Guilt. That I feel guilty. Guilt. That I’m needed to do so much more than lie in bed. Guilt. That I’ve had to cancel work appointments.

I know it’s a fairly pointless post but if anyone gets it, it’s you guys.

[Mrs-Geography]

Hi, totally understand why you feel guilty on so many fronts, our brains are amazing things but can be a real pain too! It's so easy to say don't feel guilty etc but that doesn't always help but honestly you have to vent and remember all the great things you do and sometimes you just have to look after yourself!! X

[mrsswinnydm in reply to Mrs-Geography]

You are completely right! Thank you! Thankfully feeling better today but it is hard to remember that sometimes with the agony we go through 😊 xx

[Circe3]

Your amazing! Your doing really well. Looking after yourself is so important.

I am a solo renter and freelancer and was putting guilt on myself also as have to be self sufficient.

I realised this stress might have exacerbated the problem in the first place.

We need to create peace in our minds and look after each other

[mrsswinnydm]

It sounds like you’re also doing amazing. I think when we realise our limitations and our abilities things can sometimes make a bit more sense. I felt so awful cancelling my clients yesterday but there was nothing else I could do 😔 thankfully, rescheduled.

It’s good to have those that understand so thank you again.

[Dee_EndoUK Moderator Endometriosis UK]

Ahh - bless you. I think mums naturally feel guilt on a daily basis, and having a flare up just takes it to that next level! Please be kind to yourself and take the time that you need when you're suffering. Guilt just heaps more stress onto an already stressful situation, which can make the pain worse. Hope you're still feeling better today x