I’m feeling absolutely hopeless, useless and pointless right now. Had the dreaded health assessment for Employment Support Allowance a few days ago and have been notified that I have been placed in the Work Related Activity group rather than the Support group. Not only does this mean that the DWP think I am fine and need to earn my benefit with tasks/interviews and get back to work, but also means they won’t pay me anything after this September as I will have been on contribution-based ESA for a year.
There’s no way I can hold down a job with my symptoms, not even part time. I had to give up my job because I couldn’t manage physically or mentally. I don’t understand what they think I might be capable of doing and who on Earth would employ me??
I have no life at the moment and don’t see that improving any time soon. I’m in daily pain, much worse on periods, have so much fatigue and brain fog that some days I can’t even follow a recipe. I’m stressed and depressed about being ill. My anxiety is high. I don’t go anywhere, as money is short and if I need to drive I can’t take all my painkillers. With bladder and bowel symptoms, I don’t want to stay out long anyway, and can rarely relax & enjoy myself. I can’t keep up with all the chores that need doing at home even though I’m stuck there all the time, so I feel horribly guilty as well.
I’m waiting to start chemical menopause injections, to see if that gives me some temporary relief. I don’t hold out much hope, because I have deep endo, scarring & adhesions (plus I have had no luck with hormones in the past & believe they masked/fed my endo). Another major operation is probably on the cards, but with how slowly things move it will probably be another couple of years before it gets done. I did try to tell the DWP about all of this, and explain that there’s no cure, and that even natural menopause doesn’t mean the end of endo, but obviously it means nothing to them.
I can hardly see the point in getting up in the morning.