So tonight I cried after sex and now I feel guilty as ever. First I deprive my poor fiance of sex because I'm terrified of the pain and then I go and cry midway through in pain.
My poor guy is so supportive he's an angel and I just wish he didn't have to be a part of this mess. Has anyone suffered with symptoms of depression with endo before and can give some advice because I feel utterly useless at this point in time.
Ah bless ya, it’s so tough, do not blame yourself for this, I’d bet a million pounds your partner doesn’t! Sex is supposed to be enjoyable and endo affects that - it’s really effing shitty. BUT it’s not the end, my partner and I had to stop due to the pain but we ended up doing lots of other things instead. In fact it’s better now than it was before! Essentially what I’m saying is penetration can become a fraction of what is a very varied and satisfying sex life if you both want it ❤️
When it comes to trying to conceive, after a laparoscopy I had no pain with sex for a year so it would have been fine then if we’d wanted to.
Seriously though, do not forget that you are a very strong individual and you got this!! Xxx
Thank you 
I know he doesn't blame me for it he's extremely supportive it just makes me feel so rubbish about myself I'm waiting for some scan results back from my doctor and hopefully I can move forwards with some sort of pain management or treatment
I completely understand what you are going through. I cannot tell you how many times this has happened to me. If your other half is understanding that is amazing!! I would honestly just sit down with them anyways to talk about how this makes you feel.
The way I got/getting through it is going step by step, see what triggers you. Also, dilators and breathing techniques!
Wish you all the best, stay strong.
Thank you he is pretty amazing he's so patient and whilst he really doesn't understand the condition he gets that I'm in pain and that the condition causes the pain so what more can I really ask for. It just sucks that I'm putting the poor thing through this stress with me
Trust me. Had a bit of a breakdown with my Fiance today as I hate putting him through the stress too. But he is so understanding. Looks like we both have keepers. Look after yourself.
I have the same problem too it makes you feel so shitty doesn’t it . Sometimes I just don’t even wanna do anything because I know what to expect and it’s real shit because you don’t wanna let your partner down . But at the same time you have to always make sure you feel comfortable too . And yeah guys who really love you will be supportive and know that it’s not all about sex and they are very understanding so don’t worry or feel bad if you can’t always go through with it . It’s hard isn’t it you don’t wanna upset anyone and you know what men are like haha . But yeah maybe just try different things I find different positions are more comfortable and less painful !!
That's exactly how I feel! I'm glad to see other people feel the same because even though he says it's okay it doesn't feel okay because I know he wants to continue or start something and then I feel the immense guilt when I say no for weeks because I'm anticipating the pain.
I understand how you feel! I have been diagnosed with vaginismus as well as endometriosis. I have just started using dilators, which I am finding really helpful to massage the muscles inside. Definitely speak to your doctor about it.
Sadly I’ve been in the same boat, and the guilt is something. Stay open with him and try everything else to keep you both close. I found the days 7-14 around the best time for me to try penetration as it was less painful. Also certain positions were less uncomfortable.
It sounds like you have a wonderful man and my partner was great too. Don’t let it eat you up as it will impact on your relationship. I’ve had depression caused by this condition and the guilt doesn’t help. Keep talking and relax! Your in love and engaged enjoy.
At 42 I’m learning worry about the things you can change but the things you can’t either accept, ignore or learn from!
Best wishes 💕💕
Anyone with endometriosis without pain during sex ?
No pain during sex = No Endometriosis?...
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