How to avoid drinking at a wedding??!!!

[KM1986]

Have an all day wedding and due to increasingly poor health due to endo I know I'm going to need pain killers to get me through the day. I also want to take my car to make a quick escape. So needles to say I won't be drinking alcohol. Anyone got any tips on how to avoid lots of questions? I don't particularly know the people at this wedding so don't want to get into the endo story with strangers. Also would be heart breaking if anyone thought I was pregnant. So need a bullet proof response! Help!

[Hidden]

You could explain that you are driving home after, that gives you the perfect reason not to be drinking. You could also say you’re on antibiotics and can’t drink with them, people usually wouldn’t question that xxx

[Hannah0091]

Hi, I completely understand your predicament. I’m getting married this year and can not drink beacuse of my medication. People always ask If I’m expecting and it’s heartbreaking. So you could say your driving or you could say your on medication that doesn’t allow you to drink. People might assume your on antibiotics then. If people don’t know you very well surely it’s a very personal line to cross. I wish you luck x

[KM1986]

We live in a really small town so the driving excuse doesn't work as no one drives really and the anti bioticd excuse is kind of a running joke in this town as a sure sign someone is pregnant so neither of these are really an option.

It's just so awful being put on the spot by people you don't really know. My husband hates it too. I think I'm just going down the lines of saying I'm t total at the moment and hoping people don't ask anything after that.

Good luck with your wedding xxx

[Hidden]

Honestly, I'd just say that you've decided not to drink alcohol at the moment, perhaps say you have a long drive in the morning or just that you really don't fancy a drink. Anyone who questions you is just being nosey and frankly it's none of their business. Or say that you're feeling a bit under the weather (i dont know, say you can feel a cold coming on) or that you've got a bad headache? xx

[KM1986]

Thanks ladies. Ridiculous that we're made to feel this way just for trying to look after our health xx

[Faybee87]

I've pretty much stopped drinking and had all the same concerns as you. It gets easier the more you do it, but I order something that looks like booze so I get less questions, soda and lime is good for that. Anybody who asks, I either say it doesn't agree with me or if I'm more comfortable with them I tell them how it makes me really anxious the following day and it's just not worth it anymore. You'd be surprised how many people say 'oh yeah, I get that too, I should cut down really.' The main thing I've found is that you have to stand by your convictions, don't act like you'd love a drink but you're not allowed to, because there's always somebody who will use that try and needle at you and get you to have 'just one'.

[AllthatGlitters]

You could simply say you don’t drink as you don’t like the effects of it the next day a simple answer and you don’t have to go into depth with people you don’t know. It’s quite sad that we have to make up excuses instead of saying you know what I don’t like alcohol people always assume there is something wrong with you or you must be pregnant if you are not drinking.

[Scottoe]

I’d say I don’t drink (because I don’t). Yeah some people think it’s weird but hey ho. If you don’t know the people that well then they’ll probably not question it xx

[KM1986]

Thank you ladies all great advice there. Something so silly but I was getting really panicky about it. I guess just saying it doesn't agree with me covers all bases. Think I was just getting myself wound up, especially since I will be driving so couldn't disguise not drinking with soft drinks that looked like alcohol xxx

[ourmolly]

Are you going on your own to the wedding ? Just tell people you are driving and on antibiotics. Hence, being on antibiotics could be a reason if you have to leave early if you don't feel well. Good luck. I know how you feel. I have often had to leave early due to not feeling well.

[Aghl]

There are certain anti biotic you not to drink with. Alternatively your driving so u cant drink.. keep it simple xx hope u get on ok