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A warm welcome Feelsolow which is a sad name which no doubt sums up how you feel at the moment. We’ll have to work to turn it around to Feelsoconfident!

It’s such early days for you and you must still feel in a state of shock and bewilderment. It’s tough going in for a cholesterol test and coming out with a blood cancer diagnosis! We all understand how brutal and scary it is straight after diagnosis.

I’m not sure which country you’re from but you’re having an unusual battery of tests so soon after a CLL diagnosis. It’s generally agreed that CT scans are not usually necessary and 6 yrs post diagnosis I’ve yet to have a bone marrow biopsy. Have you been given any reason why these tests were being done? Have your levels found to be high at diagnosis? What kind of specialist are you seeing because it’s generally agreed that a haematologist skilled in CLL is necessary and if at all possible, a CLL expert as time progresses.

You’re very young for this diagnosis but otherwise fit and you must feel very scared. I certainly did when I was diagnosed at 54. The best advice I could give you is give yourself time to adjust before you widely disclose. The reasons why will become more obvious as time passes. Learn all you can about this condition because to know your enemy takes some of its power away. Avoid feelings of despondency and thoughts of dying. This condition isn’t created equal and much depends on our unique chromosomal profile as to how it will affect us and how quickly we’ll need treatment. As I said 6 yrs on I’m untreated but am now at a stage where treatment discussions are starting.

Forget about depressing and outdated survival predictions on the net. CLL is firmly on the scientific radar and treatments have advanced immensely. It could be years, decades before you need treatment so don’t waste them in a state of despondency.

There’s a wealth of information on this site and a huge number of fellow CLL’ers of all ages and at every stage of the disease. The support and understanding is there for you whenever you need it.

Please ask any questions and best wishes to you. When is your next haematology consult? Have you been given a staging yet?

Newdawn

FeelSolow

I was diagnosed about 16 months ago at 50. About the same, went in for one thing, came home with another.

Not much will change in your life. You likely have years or a decade or more before any treatment is done and then more years or a decade before the next one.

CLL won't end your life tomorrow or any time soon.

Scott

So glad you found this forum Feelsolow, where you'll find loads of support and people with a lot of expertise who can help you work through this.

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Helllo Feelsolow

I’m young as well , I was diagnosed in March 2018 at 46. No symptoms In the construction field. It was found by chance. I have SLL it’s the same, I am in your shoes with the shock but getting better emotionally. I was thinking I was going to die very soon until I got a better understanding of this disease. It may never impact your life expectancy or never need treatment. 30 % of people never need treatment and live a symptom free life. The other 70% live for decades without treatment or some need treatment and live decades. Now for the big emotional part for me is even though I understand the fact that this may never impact my life or it could be decades away and as time goes on there more then likely will be a cure. I have a 14 year old daughter that I haven’t told because I’m symptom free and don’t want to worry her but I cry everyday worrying about not being around to see her graduate from school or get Married. All for no real reason because of the statistics. It will just take time to get past that part for me. I wish you the best and your in great company. The people on this site are very knowledgeable and can answer any questions, they’ve made it much easier for me to cope. Best wishes John ... if I miss spelled things sorry I am rushing I have someplace to be.