I've been really interested lately in the affect bullying has on our lives and what we can do to overcome it. I've often thought many of us would have had a lot less problems over the years if people would have simply had the courage to treat us better. At times I will let my mind lament on harmful social encounters that I've endured and become fearful that it will happen again.
So since I'm now more accepting of my condition, Im shifting my thoughts from resenting it, to looking at what I can do to lead a more empowered life with my difference. It's not changing, so I have to change how I react to it, and how I deal with other people reacting to it.
So understanding the psychological reasons that people bully is helping me to detach from it.. seeing that it is not me, and I'm not the only one to experience it. There is extensive research on the power dynamics of bullying and how society can move away from a culture of intimidation to a more accepting and inclusive environment for us all.
The following article was enlightening.. it basically says that there is a third important part of bullying that people don't often talk about. Namely, how social reactions to bullying perpetuate the behavior. It says if bullies didn't have an audience, many times it wouldn't continue. Bullies are looking for social status, and bystanders look to maintain social status.
Have a look psychologytoday.com/intl/bl...