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Down days

I'm (once again) having an off day and I'm so fustrated with myself because I've been doing so good so far, but now I just feel depressed.

When I go out I don't feel as confident in my appearance as I did a week or two ago. It's just been down days constantly. I don't feel like going into work cause I get stares (which I didn't mind before cause I've gotten used to it now) but things have suddenly change and I don't feel that confidence I did before. I don't know what's going on.

It's like I took 2 years to be where I am today and gain the confidence. But now it's gone back down again. I'm lost.

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Hi Crystal. Thanks for your message. Sorry to hear you’re having a down day today. There are lots of services who offer support who may be able to help. If you feel like you need some advice or just someone to talk to you can see the list here… support.healthunlocked.com/...

Take care. Paul

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Be strong. For yourself and not for others. All the best for you

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Hi Crystal- I'm sorry you had a down day, I had one yesterday as well. I tried so hard to get motivated, to go out and I just couldn't do it. I acquired my visible difference about 2 and a half years ago. I'm not going to lie, it's been rough. It's like a roller coaster ride of emotions. Some days I'm fine and feel confident and other days are like what I experienced yesterday. I'm hoping that one day what I look like won't matter and I'll get used to it. It may take years though. Try not to be so hard on yourself, it will get better.

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Thank you so much! I appreciate you sharing with me because it makes me not feel alone 😁💖.

I realised the reason I was feeling down was because I didn't do my self esteem medication for two days and you know what? 9 mins of that and then I felt better again.

I also tried curling my hair each time I went to work and I felt more prettier.... It's amazing ng how little things can change an attitude. I hope your good as well x

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Meditation I meant 😂😂

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Know what I've noticed with me lately? Talking about it brings it to my attention more so it's on my mind more. Makes me feel even more self conscious knowing that this thing I experience real and that I'm not just making it up. Maybe try to redirect your thoughts? Maybe do something old or new that increases your self esteem from within. Like do something that fulfills you emotionally and ignore the negative thoughts.

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You know what? I did exactly that... Basically for two days I just felt like crap but then I curled my hair and changed it to another style (put more effort into my appearance and clothes) and I felt more beautiful about myself.... To the point where I didn't care about the stares 😄.

Self acceptance especially for a person with a facial difference is a MASSIVE thing 💯💖. If a person accepts themselves then the negative won't hit as hard x

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I looked at your post that has a pic of you and i see nothing wrong with you, you look beautyful in every way din't change when people tell you to stand up for yourself.

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Thanks so much! Sometimes I find it hard telling them to leave me alone because I kno they are 'helping' in their own way, but I honestly am tired of hearing it to be honest 😂😂.

If I want to cover my face before my operation I believe its my own right to do that. I just get triggered when anyone says anything.

But thanks for your kind words xx

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