Hi all, I'm new here and I don't really know how to start but... I'll give it a go. I'm a young woman experiencing alopecia, in my case it was diffuse thinning due to Hashimoto's and since a few months ago also a. areata very rapidly progressing towards totalis. My bad luck xD!
I've always been attached to my hair in terms of identity, I'm mixed and almost white-passing if you disregard the hair so my hair was a really big deal, my defining trait if you will. I'm sure it is for any girl, anyways. I've done my fair share of crying, asking "why me?" over and over again, envying other "normal people" and I feel it's time for me to pick up the pieces of my life and get constructive. I've lost my hair but I need not lose my entire life.
The catch is... I get stuck. Things seem to be going better, I shaved my head in order to get comfortable with what lies ahead, I am productive, I improve my sociability for a while and then something minor happens and I get kicked into this spiral of self-pity, depression and passivity. When that happens I just want to hide and sleep.
I struggle with mirrors. The reflection is someone - and it's not bad, or repulsive - but it isn't me yet.
I'm looking for advice. What helped you get back on track with your "normal" life? How can I make this transition into my new normal faster and smoother? How can I help ease the negative emotions that come periodically? I'm determined to stay positive as much as I can and help myself live a fulfilling life regardless.
Sorry that was so long and sorry about my bad punctuation, English is not my first language!
Thank you all xxxx