People just dont understand.

[secrets22]

As a normally outgoing and sociable person i get agrieved that some people dont understand grief and all the documentation it involves,business commitments,reams of paperwork,etc...and the overwhelming tiredness,and i must admit my sleeping is abysmal at the best of times.

Recently 2 friends asked if they could call in as they were in the town,and of course i said yes,that would be great,now this was at midday ,but by 5.30pm they still had not arrived,(they were in a pub) so i sent them a message to say i would prefer another time,as by now i was wilting,and by late afternoon i can barely keep going,and this particular couple will stay on till late and late nights do not agree with me lately.However they were very offended and i feel sad about that.

By the same token another friend who has wanted to visit,and i put off several times,has not given up on me ,and was here last week.

I wish some people would realise that we cant shove loss under the carpet,it hurts.

[sassy59]

Dear me secrets what a shame your friends just couldn’t show a little compassion and sensitivity. It’s perfectly understandable that you’re exhausted and grief can’t just be turned on and off to suit.

What your friends should have done was to make time for you instead of sitting in the pub but they didn’t. Rather selfish I feel. Thankfully another friend was more understanding and has been there for you. Thank goodness you have someone like that in your life.

Thinking of you dear lady and wishing you better days ahead. Take care xxxxxx

[katieoxo60]

Sitting in the pub for hours is not exactly supporting you at your time of need. All I would say is true freinds would not do that. At time of loss it is very stressful , tiring and some people become ill. It can take a long time to greive. Take care and do things your way . Thinking of you. x