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Poem: The Importance of Friends

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Hi. I am a full time carer for my husband who has a rare form of demetia: I wrote this this week after I went out for lunch with some wonderful friends for lunch at our local garden centre. Hope you enjoy it.

I had a lovely day today:

I went out with friends.

We went out for brunch,

which turned into lunch.

We talked of music and theatre and holiday times;

of being ‘filled with the spirit’,

and shopping on line.

We only touched on the problems related to care:

broken nights; infections

, the need for patience and of it feeling unfair.

Today I was ‘me’, not the carer, who leaves her dreams at the door,

as I care for the lovely man that I married

,

who’s mind is now damaged and has come to the fore.

To process information, he finds very hard.

To ensure what I am feeling

doesn’t get in the way,

I’ve just had to learn

the right things to say.

When I’m out with my friends I don’t have to think what to say.

Which is why I had

such a lovely day today.

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sassy59

That’s wonderful AliBee and written from the heart. Glad you had a great time xxxx

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Jennymary

Absolutely beautiful, it's brought tears to my eyes x

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AliBee1 in reply to Jennymary

Thank you. Having a really grotty day today so am hanging on to that day x

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Barbnken

The blessed relief an hour or so away. To be just ME makes you feel light-headed! Thanks for putting in to words how we all feel. xx

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AliBee1 in reply to Barbnken

Thank you. Having a really grotty day today so am hanging on to that day x

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MAS_Nurse

Hi AliBee1 and welcome to the forum. What a wonderful poem. I am sure other members of the forum will appreciate this. Thank you and well done.

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AliBee1 in reply to MAS_Nurse

Thank you. Having a really grotty day today so am hanging on to that day x

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Lynn-Osborne

Hello AliBee

What a wonderful poem and highlighting to us all the importance of continuing friendships. Thank you for sharing

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AliBee1 in reply to Lynn-Osborne

Thank you. Having a really grotty day today so am hanging on to that day x

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Maggimay

Really lovely

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AliBee1 in reply to Maggimay

Thank you. Having a really grotty day today so am hanging on to that day x

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Butterfly261216

Beautiful words

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tobby1428

really beautiful AliBee.they are right about carers......overworked,underpaid…..but absolutely brilliant...well done!!!!!!!!!!!!!

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AliBee1 in reply to tobby1428

Thank you. It came from the heart. xxxx

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