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Hi everyone,

My dad was taken into hospital yesterday and discharged this morning without my knowledge and just dumped at home if a neighbour hadn’t seen him he wouldn’t of got in. His got terrible HE now and they think his ok to be at home. I’m currently going to doctors in Monday I’m already on 40g of citalopram and I’m loosing the plot He was destressed yesterday and has no clue what’s going on I’m so ill I can’t be there. So be it on social services head. This country is a fucking joke !!!!

Jo X

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Hi

That's absolutely disgusting. When byou feel more able you could complain to Pals. Have you got anyone to talk to or another family member who could help you. If you don't mind me asking where do you live? Love and hugs Lynne xxxx

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Hi there ,

I’m in Southend on Sea. Husband has just gone to take some food his not been well with flu. I couldn’t look after him as my dad was taking so much of my time. Not that his eating or drinking cause his so confused. I pray to god his body shuts down soon his at end stage cirrhosis

Jox

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My heart goes out to you all. Love and hugs to you all Lynne xxxx

Shocking news. The Doctors must be living in a Bubble.👎

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alfredthegreat

Dear Jo. My heart goes out to you. It's shameful that your father is being failed by the system in this way.

In your shoes I would be tempted to tell Social services and medical services involved that you will go public over his received treatment and care ( or none care !) and that you will contact your MP.

The stress that you are going through over all this is inexcusable!

When the system works it is second to none, but when it fails as in your fathers case it is abysmal!

I really hope that this whole sorry situation improves for you.

My very best wishes.

Alf.

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sunnysmile

This is absolutely awful to read. Yes as per Alfred the system has failed your dad. He is so very poorly and cast aside - which is inhumane If it were me, I would be contacting my MP on Monday!

Please release your anger on here - you need to.

Thinking of you

Gwen

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Isabelle2

Oh Bubbles that is terrible. How can they do this? I agree with Alf and Sunny. If you have the energy/time pls complain! Next time for someone else there might not be a neighbour around!

Stay strong my love

Your Dad needs you

Sending massive virtual hug!

Isabelle xx

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Re above. Please , if you can, get on to your MP on Monday. I just can't get my head around how they can send your Dad home on his own in his condition. They want shaming. Yes, and give vent to your feelings in here, everyone will support you.

Sending gentle hugs to you all. Lynne. Xxxx

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davianne

Oh Dear Jo,

I can't believe that have done it to you again. You really should contact PALS, as I said before. With really bad HE, he is not capable of looking after himself. If your GP won't take his HE seriously, you should complain to the practice manager and threaten action unless your Dad's illness is given the priority it deserves. You could contact your MP, but they are all obsessed with Brexit just now.

We will give you all the support we can, but the responsibility of your Dad's care lies with the NHS and social services, especially as it is having a detrimental effect on your health, and you should tell them this. You could always try 999 again, and tell them they can't send him home as there is no one to look after him.

I hope you get the help you need.

David

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Willh0

Hi Bubbles.

I suffered very badly from HE a little while ago and I can understand what you and your father are going through. When I wasn’t well I didn’t know that I was sick and I would and did everything to avoid going to hospital then if I did get admitted I would do everything I could to be discharged as soon as I could, Even although I shouldn’t have been allowed home.

I was in no state to make the decision for myself and I was putting myself in harms way by doing this. However I didn’t see that I had a problem until it was very nearly too late. I would love to be able to tell you what to say or do to try and make things better however I don’t know what made me change the way I was being or I would tell you.

I can only tell you what possibilities there were for my family to be able to help me. I first thing that I did was pass all the care choices over to them. As in, if I was in hospital then if was up to my family and the doctors if I was going to be discharged as I couldn’t make that decision on my own. They also got the GP involved and he assisted with this whole process as I would have lied, cheated, tunnelled out if it meant I would go home.

There are tests that they can do on you once your there to access your cape abilities and wouldn’t have discharged you unless you were able to pass these tests.

It’s hard to know what to tell you for the best as I can tell how frustrated you are by everything that’s gone on, but it only takes the 1 person to take a look at this whole situation and say it’s not right and to take ownership of it until it’s resolved. Luckily I found that person fairly early on and it was mainly down to them that I managed to get through it all. Problem is finding that 1 person.

I know it’s making you unwell as well as giving you so many other problems but there are people there that can and will help you. Don’t give up on him and them just yet.

Speak to as many people as you can, doctors, mps, council punters anyone that will listen and I’m sure at least 1 of them will help you In getting him the help and care that he needs.

Good luck,

Will

Bubbles, if you want to get their attention, tell his GP, social services, and everyone with a duty of care that lets him down, tell them that you will name them personally in a coroner's court where you'll be seeking an inquiry into his death from their continued neglect.

It definitely wakes them RIGHT up, I can assure you, and it can give you some relief from the ordeal you've had trying to get help for him, even if it is too little too late for your dad.

Stay strong.

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Bs1524

Bubbles so very sorry to hear how your Dad has been treated. Why is it that it feels as if you have to fight for everything. It all appears to be about cost saving well where I am it is. My husband had been going to his GP for most of last year and nothing was really happening until I went with and demanded something was done all I could think is just how ill do you have to be to get treatment.

Good luck I hope you get some answers x

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cherrygirl13

Have they not heard of a ‘dols’ (deprivation of liberty) they should have assessed his mental capacity and then detained him - if needed !!!! I only became aware of this following my husband repeatedly ‘escaping/being discharged’ when he had bad episodes - have a look so that you are ready for it if and when it happens again - I totally sympathise as it’s extremely traumatic and you have me love and best wishes 🥰

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