So, my sweet, sweet husband Andy passed away last week due to alcoholic liver cirrhosis. He was a wonderful man with an addiction to alcohol. Eight months ago he found out he had this and quit drinking completely. Sadly, though completely sober for 8 months, he hadn't completed alcohol dependency counseling so he got too sick to be put on the waiting list for a transplant here in New York. It was a brutal 8 months. But God he tried to beat this wreched disease....
I want to thank all of you who, when I posted a few questions, answered helpfully. I only posted a couple of times but I spent a lot of time reading other posts here and was able to be reassured that there were plenty of helpful people out there and reason to be hopeful.
I wish everyone living with this disease personally or going through this with a family member or friend the best of luck and peace. I feel for you all so much.
Rest in peace Andy. You were the best friend and husband I could have ever asked for. I hope to see you in my dreams....
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There are really no words for what you must be experiencing right now. You obviously had a wonderful husband and a rare love. It doesn’t seem fair. Be sure to lean on your other loved ones and/or come back here anytime for support. My thoughts are reaching across the ocean to you. 😔
I did have a wonderful husband. Right now, that doesn't help but, eventually, I'm hoping that the wonderful memories will make this more bearable. Thank you (and go Blue!)
Dear Jski
I'm so sorry for your very sad loss! I do hope you have many friends to you can turn to when days are tough!
I'm here should you ever need a private shoulder!:
I am so so sorry to hear of the loss of your dear husband. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family at this sad time. I too stopped when I had my cirrhosis diagnosis, and like your husband, didn't need counselling, giving up was easy, and have been abstinent for over 2 years now.
Oh, I am so very sorry for your loss. It must be so awful knowing that he was trying so hard so he could potentially have a transplant. Stopping drinking was a very difficult and brave thing for him to do. I hope that you were able to spend quality time together and that he went peacefully. And that he was calm and felt loved when he went.
I was in a coma before I had a transplant and my family had been told to say good bye. I was vaguely aware of things and felt very tired, but warm and cozy. I hope this was the sensation he had.
I am so glad that you told me this. I was hoping that he was aware that everyone was around him the last few days. I think he may have been. Just before he took his last breath he opened his eyes and tears came falling down his face. He had been unconscious and drugged up for days.
It sounds as if it was a bit like me. I didn’t have any pain, and they would have made sure that was so. I just felt warm, comfortable but very, very tired. It sound like you had a lovely hubby.
God Bless you and your family. So sorry for your loss. I wish the outcome could have been different. I believe our Heavenly Father will comfort your husband and give him peace. Praying for you🙏
Jski
We are so sorry to read this...we send our sincere condolences for your loss
Iam sorry for your loss, my thoughts are with you at this sad time.
I too lost my husband to this vicious disease with alcoholism.
What gets me the most is the speed at which my husband deteriorated. Within a month from being able to go about daily life with symptoms of mild liver disease to being taken to A&E not being able to walk and breath, within matter of a week I lost my husband and lost my life that we once shared together. That was last year and Iam still not able to come to terms with what’s happened and why xx
I so sorry of your loss, I also lost my wife two weeks ago also with cirrhosis through alcohol. She gave up alcohol 5 years ago, & she had to take Spironolactone & Furosemide, they gave her 5/6 years unless she had a transplant. She was elected for a transplant last September, & was called for a physical assessment in early February. Unfortunately by this time she was unable to complete some of the tests, owing to her becoming too weak. After 46 years of happy marriage I now have to come to terms that its just me for the time being. hopefully as time goes by it will be less painful for both of us.
So sorry for your loss. Sounds cliche but at least we have our memories. Sounds like we both had good marriages that were ended way too soon. Hang in there. I would imagine that at some point things won't seem so surreal.
Sincere condolences to you . At least he is no longer suffering and liver disease is known as a silent killer. He obviously tried hard to recover once he was made aware, You must try and recall your happy times, but it will take a lot of time to pass. Hoping each day is less painful for you Hazelx
So sorry for the loss of your soulmate. I'm behind in my emails and read the other person's post first today. My husband is also my soulmate and I don't ever want to be posting the same thing but we all know that it is always a possibility for any of us with a spouse with this disease. You WILL see Andy in your dreams. Please take care of yourself.
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