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Lost my husband to liver failure

So the title says it all....my dearly beloved husband is no more...he succumbed to this horrible horrible disease which he tried so hard to fight. Iam utilising this forum to help with my bereavement and I want to get my message to all those who are going difficult times with there loved ones alcohol dependency. My husband suffered all the symptoms only in he last three months before his passing. Each time he would rush himself to A&E for nose bleeds, difficultly on breathing and liver pain they would send him home the next day !...at no time was we warned that there was a serious issue. I just would like to say that if you ever experience any signs for jaundice , itching, swelling, fatigue , confusion ...list goes on please please stop and think is it worth drinking...get help straight away please don't dismiss any symptoms. Iam now in a position that I wish I came across all the facts a year ago and I would not have lost my husband so soon. The pain Iam in right now will live with me forever....

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Dexan and I have messaged privately


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Mavis66 in reply to

Sorry for your lossx

Dear Dexan

I am so terribly sorry for your loss. It is such a waste of a life. I am sure that if any of us had known the problems we risked later we would never had drunk as we did. We can each make those around us aware of the dangers of alcohol. It is something I and all transplantees should do. I am just so very, very sorry your beloved husband was not given the chance I have been given.

Thinking of you and your family


I’m so sorry. Your advice is very good; am grieving with you.

So very sorry to hear your news. I feel we are the generation that will be raising awareness, because until my husband developed liver problems, we knew very little about it and what a valuable organ the liver is in the body. We do all take our body for granted and assume life will go on and on and believe Medical science has the answer to everything. I can understand your anger and frustration. Thoughts are with you and take care. JX

Sorry my darling , I agree , if only the media were more active , and not just about alcohol , but about liver disease in general . x X

I am so very sorry for you I am one of the very lucky one my wife had a liver transplant so I still have her hers was alcohol but they told her to stop drinking and she did totally stop I stopped as well to help her

But I am so very very sorry for you


So so sorry for loss Dexan. Let's hope your story will help others to fight their corner and avoid the demon drink like the plague. You're in my thoughts and prayers.

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Warm wishes


So sorry for your loss xx

So sorry to hear your news. My husband had a liver transplant but he had never drunk. I was shocked at how much the liver does and what goes wrong when it doesn't work properly. I hope you get some help from this site and once again sorry to hear your awful news xxxxx

Hello Dexan, firstly may I offer my sincere condolences for the recent lose of your beloved husband. I have to agree with you about the terrible medical consequences that can follow Liver disease. I too have suffered with many of the medically associated conditions, including Varices, Ascites, Hepatic Encephalopathy, and Hepatocellular Carcinoma.

You are so right to want to point out and highlight the medical ailments associated with alcohol-related liver disease. What isn't often spoken of is the damage this condition does, not only to the patient, but to also the family members who are also impacted upon. These are what I call the silent suffers.

I am so glad, Laura009 has messaged you. She will not only be able to offer you some comfort, but hopefully some reassurance about the future, She is a wonderful lady.

Please give yourself time to grieve, and to come to terms with this sad passing.

Maybe in time, you might want to talk and speak openly about these past years with your dear husband, and speak of his battle for life. You may find that talking about this may help in so many different ways. You can speak of your own story, and that of your dear husband, and in doing so keep his memory alive. You can speak of the medical dangers and how it has impacted upon both family and friends. Your story can be both a message and a warning to others. But please, give it time.

I'm sure I speak for many on here when I say that you and your family are in our thoughts at this sad time.



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Kimlescam in reply to

Well said xx

Thank you all for kind words, the grief at this very moment in time is too painful for words, thanks all xx

I am so sorry for your loss. You are in my thoughts and prayers

Life just isn't fair is it?,Sending heartfelt love and hugs Lynne xxxx

I'm so sorry for your loss. I'm not happy that no one really sat you down and talked to you about this disease. That's just not right. Take care of you now.

Dear Dexan154,

My deepest sympathies on your loss to you and your family.


My thoughts are with you and your family. Please let your very sad loss be a reminder to the unfortunate souls and victims of the "demon" drink. All very very sad. Please look after yourself too and remember the amazing times which will be held close to your heart and not be forgotten.

Amazing how often this disease kills so many people without people realising I hope you have got onto that stage of recovery for grief don’t wish it on anyone to have someone taken away so soon!!

So sorry for your loss...May he RIP⚘

I too am sorry for your loss..I dont know how much longer my husband can fight this dreaded disease...take care of yourself.

I am so sorry to hear of your loss. I too lost my husband, a few months ago, so can relate to the pain you have been experiencing.

My husband died despite not having drunk any alcohol for well over six months. In March his liver and immune system was functioning normally, despite some cirrhosis. We weren't expecting all that followed very quickly. In our case the medical profession didn't seem to know how to handle the problem or recognise what was actually wrong. His decline was like nothing I've seen before.

I notice it's been some months since you posted. I hope you are feeling much stronger. Best wishes

Sending Prayers and Love from America

Heartbreaking news. Sending hugs. We all feel it for you as we are or have been on the same journey. Please try and keep strong.

I lost my wife almost 2 months ago to end stage liver disease. it was brought on from years of a few glasses of wine pretty much daily but also taking Tylenol and ibuprofen for aches and pains. she didn't think her liver was in such danger until one day her skin turned yellow and it was too late by this time. this has messed me up bad because I feel like if we had known sooner, our lifestyle would have definitely changed. we made a vow to each other to quit drinking when she got sick, thinking she would recover but now i'm doing it alone in her honour. I truly understand how you are feeling. i'm sorry for you too. my kids are in their 20's and now I get to be single dad. that's my only goal, to be good for them.

As a new member of this community I can only echo the heartfelt words of support from everyone. I hope you can find some comfort in that.

There are many of you and your family who found out too late what alcohol can do to the liver and I echo the call to shout loudly about this. I am one of the many who has found out too late and despite stopping drinking a year ago my prognosis is not good.

Meantime, I prescribe a hug 🤗 for you all. Take care xx

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