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Keeping it up

Hi folks, I've gone 4 days now without a drink, probably means nothing to most of you, but for me it's good, around my daughter's still, she said this is the last chance, I have to agree can't fail anymore, not sure what s happening at turning point, so basically I'm doing this on my own, but it's ok I'm a stubborn bugger, still feel slightly edgy but it's just taking one step at a time, thanks for all of your comments whether they are hard which is what I need, and positivity.

Regards Jeff x

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Keep up with the good work - every day sober adds up to a better life for everyone involved remember that

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Thanks

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Baby steps.. an hour at a time. You can beat it!! Best thing ever quitting the drink. Good luck x

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Thanks sweetheart, I know I can do it, and life is Rosie without alcohol x

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It sure is!! X

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Hi,

My last drink was three years ago and my transplant was March 2016.

Believe me when I tell you - there is life after alcohol and its just as interesting as anything you ever had before. Eventually it becomes 'the new normal' and the idea of drinking becomes increasingly a distant memory.

I was 'lucky' because I was just too ill to want a drink or tolerate the effects. Then it was a matter of survival because being listed for the transplant depended on a zero alcohol life.

Try to keep occupied and, while it lasts, enjoy the good weather. We will all be following your progress and wishing you well.

Jim

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Thanks Jim, I am going to beat this, I don't even like the taste, I think it gives you a false sense of security, people like me sober ive never been violent but I can be cruel when talking, I had a wonderful lady life was good, but she couldn't take anymore, my daughter has given me a new chance and I'm not going to waste it.

Regards Jeff

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I wish you all the best Jeff. Take good care of yourself. xx 🌿

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Keep it up mate, the drink really is not worth it, it nearly took my life two years ago but having cirrhosis what I have I’ve turned it into a positive and now being sober and with all my knowledge about alcohol I’m now working in detox centres for the NHS. I’m 41 and for the first time in my life I’m happy. Take one day at a time my friend and them 4 days will turn into weeks months and years. Wishing you well. Rod. 👍🏻

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Well done, take each day sober as a victory.

Tim 9 months since last drink.

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Just from a health view point, I take vitamin B and thiamine prescribed my my GP. Withdrawal can be difficult and dangerous. But, well done. You can do this. Don't dismiss AA or similar organisations. Meeting kindred spirits is never a bad thing.

Deb

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Just keep going, I hung onto the fact if I had a drink I could have died!

Get past each hurdle one at a time.

You can do it!

David

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Nice one you keep it up in about to stop again i stopped for 7 months it was difficult but as each week went by i was more possitive about staying off it for good but stupidly i started again saw my specialist and told him what i did but he said four your own good you really should stop so that's what ill be doing again

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Keep up the good work. Take it day by day and you will get there. Hugs

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Thanks x

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Well done mate it might only be 4 days but it is a start in the right direction my wife had liver failier and had to give up drinking which she did she drank about 1/4 to 1/2 a bottle of vodka a day I also gave up drink to support her and I was drinking about 60 Pints a week it is not easy but if it is life or death you only realy have one choice when it gets hard think about what it will do to your family if you die

Keep going mate without drink we are all here to support you just ask

Dave

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Thanks Dave

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One day at a time.xx

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Thanks x

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You not drinking for 4 days does mean a lot to us. Many of us here know how hard addiction is and how hard it is to beat. We also know given your condition that the only way your life is going to be saved is to give it up now. If it wasn't for addiction issue due to alcohol, painkillers, Tylenol, many of us wouldn't be here. We get it, good job, keep moving forward. Things will fall into place without alcohol.

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Thanks, means a lot

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Well done you should be really proud of yourself and I’m sure your daughter is really proud of you too you can only take one day at a time I hope everything goes well for you

Donna x

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Thanks Donna, so far so good, I don't want to go through an experience, just sleeping rough drinking cheap cider, it was rock bottom for me. Take care

Best wishes Jeff xx

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I think you can see from the replies how many of us who have ‘been there’ are willing you on. If I was you, be careful at least in the short term to limit your time exposed to alcohol, be it in the company of drinking buddies or social events. Just to focus on ‘the day’ and personally AA with kindred spirits - the good kind - works for me. And as some have said, in time the obsession/desire to drink dissipates like a fog lifting and of course, clarity of mind/thought and new found health - for most - is an added incentive to change. And of course, your daughter who will be so proud of you. Best of luck...

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Thanks I think a lot of people around me expect me to fail, having failed so many times before, but I'm determined, and this is it, no more poison in my body.

Regards Jeff

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Keep up the good work your doing really well be proud of yourself x

Donna x

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You are doing well Jeff. You don't need need alcohol. Believe me. I am now 6 years alcohol free. I have Cirrhosis, but my liver is stable. You can do it. If you feel the urge to have a drink, have a soft drink, that's what I did and it worked for me. Keep posting on this site, you will get tremendous support.

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Hi Foxman555,

4 days is good and each and every day without is better. My husband quit drinking 2 years ago in the hospital when the doctors told him he would die if he did not quit altogether. As his wife I am happy he is still sober and doing much better, muscle is returning and he is back to getting outside and puttering in the garage, and he helped with the snow shoveling this year [we live in the northern US].

However, it does now and then anger me that he didn't do this sooner when he could have had better health now that we are retired. He had quit for several months over the years, but started drinking again and then it just blossomed into drinking too much on every occasion. It is very hard on the family because we think you care more about drinking than you do about us and what this does to us.

Keep up the good work and my best wishes are with you.

Mary

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Hi Mary, it's one of those illnesses that if you don't think and understand what you are doing, it just hits you again, nobody with any sense would put their bodies through it, so many times I've said no more, my family and friends just don't believe me anymore, I'm getting help through an organisation called Turning point, I'm going to show everybody no means no, my partner has given up on me, she deserves better, hopefully after a while she might want to try again.

Best wishes Jeff

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Best wishes to you on your journey.

Mary

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You can stop all alcohol consumption because you are a true warrior.

I'm right with you, every minute!

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Cheers my friend

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Fantastic , keep it up. Just keep telling yourself, that if you could do 4 days, you can do one more--do this every day. Choose life.

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take a look at mysponsers.com

see you there!

I am 438 days sober and that site helped me do it.

It's somewhere you can chat with others in the same situation, sort of Facebook for alcoholics!

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Thanks I'll try it.

Regards Jeff

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Well done. Its just one day at a time. I have got 1 Year, 4M, 2W, 5D based on this principle. Think about AA I have good friends there and have taken on board what I felt was good for me. Take it easy and keep going.

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Well done, keep on going, we all know you can do it . Take Lynne

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Thanks Lynne, it's still early days, but I think if I binge again it would be my last one, I've got to be strong and not give in, which is what I'd normally do take care xx

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Good job! Keep going! For yourself and for your daughter. My dad passed from ESLD and I would do anything to have him here. I miss him everyday. 💙

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So sorry for you, this whole damn disease just grips you and it's so hard to to say no, but we have to learn new behaviours to tell us no means no, take care x

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Hi jeff good on yer keep it up,I'm at 5yrs now without a drink it gets easier as time goes by only one thing matey I was actually in hospital getting over a Dvt when I went into with drawl good thing really as it was not nice I say this because you need help so you dont get with drawl symptoms well hopefully not as bad as I got them,good luck.

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I'm just on Diazepam, docs keep giving them to me, don't know when they will stop, but it's helping at the minute.

Best wishes Jeff

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Keep up the good work your four days will soon turn in to four months an so on wish you all the luck in the world xx

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Hi Thanks, it's been 7 days now, (I think), 🙄, I wouldn't say it's been easy, loads of help from all of you, my daughter believing in me, if I fail again, then there's nobody, I'm a stubborn old git, so I'll make it through.

Best wishes Jeff xx

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