Hello to everyone. It's been a while since I've been here.
My friend almost died three weeks ago. He called me from a pavement going through a (second) ghastly internal bleed. He was vomiting copious amounts of blood and called me to get him an ambulance. After 40 agonizing minutes of waiting with him and thinking he would die in front of me, it arrived. It was the most frightening and horrendous experience I believe I've ever witnessed. Once in hospital, the doctor in the HDU told me he was minutes away from death. All as a result of alcohol. He discharged himself after five days and went home. A week later he was hospitalized again with a huge and painful blown up stomach. I had to go to his house to get something for him and to my dismay, found in the dustbin two empty whisky bottles. These I assume were consumed within his six days back home after the bleed that almost killed him. I went to the hospital with a very heavy heart. I mentioned nothing, fearing being accused of prying. He came out two days later (no stomach drain for various reasons), but with an endoscopy scheduled for beginning of August.
He came to visit me yesterday and produced a bottle of wine. I said flatly no, I cannot drink with you and I was met with 'why not? what do you mean? I can still have the odd drink'. I pointed out that he almost died and cannot drink again. I refused to drink it with him. He finished the whole bottle within a couple of hours of being with me.
I don't know how to go forward with this situation, how to help, what to say to him. Any advice would be appreciated.