Miscarriage

[MichyK]

I am 44 years old and after trying for a baby for over a year and a half - i was diagnosed with endometriosis during that time - I find out that I am pregnant.

I am absolutely over the moon as I was told the likelihood of falling pregnant naturally, if at all, was slight!!

I had always hoped to be a mum but never thought it would happen especially being 44 and then being told I have endometriosis.

I go see my dr - she makes me do a urine test and then congratulates me, tells me I am 6 weeks pregnant and sends me to the early pregnancy unit at my local hospital.

I go to the hospital and have a scan.

I am told the heartbeat is very slow and that I may miscarry and to go back in 2 weeks. Her words aren’t really registering!

Those were the longest 2 weeks ever!!! All I could think about was that poor little thing inside me trying to live!

2 weeks later (Wednesday just gone) I go back and I am told there is no heartbeat and that I have miscarried.

I cry and then I am told my options;

1. Come back in 2 weeks and see if I have properly miscarried and all has come away

2. Take pills to bring on full miscarriage

3. Have op

I decided to go with the pills as I can’t bare to wait another 2 weeks and I really don’t want an op!

No one knows any of this apart from my partner - who I think deep down is happy that I have miscarried - he is 47 and has 3 kids from a past marriage and so he feels he has been there, done it and past it!

He isn’t really the most sensitive or understanding person either

So here I am going through this all on my own really.

No one apart from him knew I was pregnant.

No one apart from him knows I have miscarried.

No one knows what’s going on in my head.

I am in my own little world.

I cry at anything.

I feel a void.

I feel so very alone.

My hope of having something that was mine and for me has been cruelly taken away

[Lucyh88]

If you got pregnant once, you can get pregnant again. If I were you, I would just try again soon. I am only 30, but I have endometriosis and low ovarian reserve and have been told I have less than 5% chance to have children naturally, and I still managed to get pregnant. I know you’re a lot older, but if you keep trying, you could manage to get pregnant again. Unfortunately, miscarriages happen. I wish you all the best!

[angellllll]

I am so sorry to hear about your loss. I can understand how heartbreaking that must have been. Just be strong! MC can be heartbreaking. I think it is even more difficult for you because you didn't share this with anyone. Sometimes support helps a lot. Lucy is right, I think. If you got pregnant once you can get pregnant again as well. Just be strong and be more positive. Try again and don't give up. You got pregnant once and that is a sign that you can get pregnant again. Visit your OB and ask him/her for help as well. If there is any medication that will help you. Best of luck to you. Sending lots of warm wishes.

[FrancyItaly]

I am very sorry about your loss. I can only try and image how you feel. I think sharing this with someone, maybe family or your closest friend will surely help. Don’t keep this only for yourself or it will only be harder for you. At this time you need help and support. Talk to your partner and explain how you feel, after all it was his baby too. Miscarriages happen at every age and no particular reason, so I agree with the others that you can get pregnant again! I wish you all the best for the future.