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My ex is demanding a paternity test on my son, despite me telling him there is no way my child is his. The dates for one would put my conception of my son between 16th August & 20th August. Which is after he moved out. He is saying if I refuse a dna on my son he will take me to court. I don't know why he's so caught up in thinking my child is his, we didn't even have sex at any point in August so he's being a douche and it's stressing me out. I don't want to do a dna on my son, as I don't have to prove something I already know. So basically does he even have the right to take me to court as surely it would be a waste of time to take me to court just for them to probably say no point doing dna as she can prove you aren't the father without it. I honestly do not want to do a dna, and think this is him yet again trying fuck up my life and control it like he did when we were together. He has done this before and made FB accounts just to mess with me.

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unfortunately yes if he thinks the child is his he can take you to court for a dna test to prove or disprove it. The easy answer if you are sure he isnt the dad would be to let him,pay for a dna test and have it over and done with. And dates of conception and things arent always right, and sperm can survive five days, a court may well issue an order for a dna test simply to know for sure

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If he’s definitely not his then what’s the harm? He can pay for it and it can all be done through the post so there’s no need to even have to see him! Then at least he has nothing left to hold over you and you then have grounds to apply for a restraining order so he can’t contact you future. Just my thought! But to answer your main question - I have no idea if legally he can press this matter, maybe consult with a lawyer just for advice and to start making a case just in case!

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Im gonna talk with citizens advice tomorrow just to see what my standing would be in this situation. Even though I know my son isn't his as we hadnt had intercourse in over three months, my anxiety is causing me to have that niggle that my son might be his and if he is his will he try take him from me etc. It's honestly making me feel crap, because it's bad enough my son won't know his real dad at all, now I've got my wanker ex trying to find out if he is.

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Let him pay for the DNA get the answer that you already know. Then he get the hell out of your life. No need to continue the battle over it if you know. If he really believes he's the father he has the right to find out. Just get it over and done with then get on with your life. If he doesn't accept the answer after the DNA proves he's not. Then get him done for harrasment

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I know but it's my anxiety making me panic and giving me that little niggle making me think it's his child even though I know he isn't. It's proper playing my emotions up and honestly don't want to subject my child to that. He was a toxic person who was mentally and emotionally abusive. This is why we split. We hadn't even had intercourse in over three months so I don't know why he's got this belief my son is his

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You don't, have to let your child anywhere near him you take the DNA and post it off also ask for a copy of results and finito.

Get him out of your life once and for all

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