Is it normal to feel this way..?

[emcoll]

Hi everyone. So, I suffer with endometriosis, and other issues that affect fertility for me. So basically I've been told it'll be a miracle if we conceive naturally. I've been told all of this since the age of about 15. I'm now 18 and after visiting the doctor yesterday, we concluded that all treatment we'd tried for the endo wasn't working. In short she said I need to decide whether I want kids or not. If I do, then it's up to me when, but she did say the sooner I do have them, the sooner they can sort my problems out - however if I don't want kids, then they can do the treatment now but if later I decide to have kids, I won't be able to because the treatment is irreversible. As I said earlier, I've just turned 18, literally a week ago. I've always wanted my own kids, I've dreamt about it and would genuinely be heart broken if we couldn't. I am in a long term committed relationship, and my partner has been with me through every step of the way. What I want to know is, if I chose to have kids sooner rather than later, meaning in the next year, would there be some sort of stigma attached to me? My family believe deeply in not having kids until your late 20's, but by then it's going to be too late, despite the fact I'm not willing to put up with the pain for another 10 years. Although I do know they would support me through it all and would never turn their backs on me. Given the circumstances, is it normal to feel this way? I'm so worried about everything and I just want the pain to end as soon as possible.

Please help..this is a very sensitive topic for me and would appreciate some kind advice

[Adabenji]

Hi dear, I think is up to you to decide if you want to have your own kids, I know the joy in being pregnant and having your own baby but you are young and under the threat of not having kids of your own in the future and I know the emotional stress I went through before convincing so I think you should talk to your family about it if that is what you want but if there is a way you can get pregnant in the future I would say go ahead with your treatment

[jimmyjohn]

I will say in defense of having kids - particularly as you feel strongly about it -i think it's better to have them earlier in your life rather than later