Abortion

[Court20000]

Hi I'm just 17 years old I got pregnant when I was 15 and had a c section with my son when I was 16 he's now 11months and I've just found out I'm pregnant again I hate the thought of an abortion I really do I start collage in September hair and beauty and won't be able to go If im pregnant im also very worried about my scar or my c section! My son is also on a child in need plan with social services becuase the age I had him I really don't know what to do I would love to have this baby I really would but there is more cons then pros please help me xx

[mbquestions]

Hey that's a really difficult situation to be in, but sometimes it helps to separate the issues, as they can seem so overwhelming. Medical risks are different from training opportunities and care needs for your son, so you can deal with them separately. Great for you to start the college course, but it doesn't stack against a lifetime decision for an abortion, or against a human life. You can do the course later, but you can't change your mind after an abortion. If you set that aside, you can look at the other two. Care and parenting needs are a huge challenge, but again, this is a challenge that with a heart for your children you can overcome and be proud of. Best be true to your own heart and you will not have regrets. Remember adoption is also an option - I don't know how this sits with you emotionally though. Medical issues are another thing, and you do need to keep yourself safe. I'd suggest getting good advice on this ASAP. It will really help you in your decision. Hoping this was useful

[H305]

Hi if you hate the thought of an abortion and would love to have the baby then there's your answer

[feyz]

I understand your aversion against abortion, but there are many women that are happy and comfortable with their decision to have an abortion. Abortion sometimes is made into an evil word, but from a feminist perspective it also means taking charge of your body and your life. Contraception is not perfect, and therefore a lot of women have to decide at some point or other in their life to have an abortion because a child just does not fit into their life at this point in time, due to lack of partner or family support, education, job, life plans. This is nothing to frown at or to look down on. Having a child is as much a decision as not to have a child, both are equally valid and the only person able to make the decision is the woman whose body it is. I believe our understanding of abortion is in part also a cultural issue, we are trained to think about abortion in a particular way. However you want to look at it, abortion is a perfectly acceptable option, it is your choice about your body and your life.

Could you explore options of starting the course and then having a maternity break? Do you have to do it all in one go, and do you have any childcare options so that you could return more quickly? Could you do it part time? Is it an either-or decision?

With your C-section scar, have you spoken to a midwife or someone who knows more about it? Are you worried that the scar might open during pregnancy or are you worried that you will need another c-section again?