Don't know what to do and feel so numb.

[Alibali21]

Hi there I'm just looking for some advice really.

For most of my life I had PCOS and really struggled to fall pregnant. After 6 years together I fell pregnant and me and my partner now have a beautiful little girl who is nearly 11 months old. When she was 6 months I fell pregnant on the pill, after long talks we decided it just wasn't the right time to have another baby and begrudgingly I had an abortion. I had the abortion 3 months ago. It wasn't the most straight forward and I still had some left after a month so I had to hold off getting the coil until my second period. We've been using condoms and I'm pregnant again . I don't want to go through that again I never wanted to in the first place. My partner on the other hand is freaking out . He really really really doesn't want it. Once upon a time I couldn't have babies and I don't want to abuse that fact 😔 What do I do 😩??

[Bpas_1968]

Hi There,

It sounds like you've been through a tough time. Why don't you book an appointment with your GP or sexual health clinic to chat through all your options from someone who is neutral. Whatever decision you make has to be yours, as you are the only person that can decide what happens to your body. Maybe your partner is in shock, as you have obviously tried not to be in this situation, and once things have calmed a bit you can talk again? You seem to be early in the pregnancy, so you have the time to make the right decision for you and your family at this point in time. Good luck.

Best Wishes

Katherine

[hspread]

sorry your going through this is it indeed difficult having babies so close together and I think you regret your last abortion and I think you already no you don't want to experience that again, talk to your partner explain how you feel

[misswinky34]

Don't be pressured into it hun my best friend had a termination years and years ago and she still regrets it now. Then she got pregnant and had a little girl then found herself pregnant again 3 months after delivering. There's less than a year between her kids. Her husband freaked out. (Understandably)but she carried on and had it and now they are both 5 and have an incredible bond. It's your body, and you can't get it back once it's gone. It's a tough one Hun but you need to listen to your heart ❤️

[Dawn_1230]

It sounds like it's meant to be... ask yourself what you want and go with that. I'm pregnant too and my husband is completely in denial, I'm hoping he'll come around, but the way I feel is that he has a choice and I've made mine.

[Alibali21]

Thank you everyone. I've told him I'm keeping it. He can't seem to understand why. I told him the impact it will have on me mentally and psychically but he just don't get it. So I've made my choice and I've told him to make his. hes being selfish and I can't be doing with that xx

[misswinky34 in reply to Alibali21]

Good for you 😊

Congratulations xx