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I've been having unprotected sex with my partner for 3 1/2 years now and am still not pregnant. I've had a "suspected miscarriage" when i was 24 days late then had an extremely painful bleed for about 2 weeks. A couple of years ago i was diagnosed with PCOS and i had to have an operation to remove cysts from my right and left ovary. My periods vary, sometimes i'll have a 38 day cycle sometimes 28. everyone around me is falling pregnant or about to give birth and its getting me so down.

Can i have a baby with PCOS ?

All i want in life is to have my own family and i hope i can do this.

Tia xx

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Hi there,

I'm so sorry to hear you are having such a difficult time. I hope your partner is supportive or you have friends or family members you can talk to about this.

When you had your cysts removed, did they discuss your fertility with you? PCOS does not necessarily mean you won't be able to conceive, even if your periods are a bit irregular, and lots of women with PCOS go on to have healthy pregnancies.

Given that you have been trying to conceive for 3 1/2 years, you should make and appointment and discuss this with your GP. They will be able to go through your medical history - and that of your partner - and, if necessary, arrange for further tests to find out what might be affecting your fertility. It may be the case that you require some medication to encourage ovulation, which can be a problem for some women with PCOS. As you are so anxious, understandably, I think you should try to see your doctor sooner rather than later.

I hope this helps. I'm sorry I can't give you a more definitive answer, but I'm sure seeing your GP will be useful.

Best wishes,



Hello katherine thanks for the reply. Yes my partner is very supportive, when i had my cysts removed i asked and they said i shouldn't have a problem, but after having unprotected sex for so long i would have thought something would have happened. I'll go to the GP and find out, thank you, i'm just a bit scared just incase my worst fears come to life.. xx


Hi- I hope you are okay and not too worried? It must be a really difficult time with all your friends becoming pregnant. Do you talk to your partner about your worries? I don't know if this helps but the mother of one of my girls friends had PCOS and she was able to conceive after thinking originally she may not be able to. It took her a while and she said that it was really hard but talking about it helped. xxx


Hello, thank you, it is quite difficult, my sisters just had a baby, my bestfriends pregnant and my step mum is also, i've been with my partner longer than any of them and they are all starting families. I do have faith, thank you that gives me a little more positivity, i'll go to the GP and i won't stop until i have a family of my own, thank you :) xxx


Hi, it must be so difficult but I think your positivity will take you far. Good luck with it all. xx


Thank you both so much for replying a couple of months ago.

I just wanted to let you both know, I'M PREGNANT :D !!!!

9 weeks, im over the moon, pcos is not going to get the better of me :) xx


Sorry but i have never heard of this condition. I wish you all the luck in the world trying to conceive. God bless you and loved ones.


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