The family dynamics are killing me!

[AndreaWilson_Founder]

Hello everyone,

For context, see my previous post: healthunlocked.com/bluefaer...

My stepmother, who I've decided is the Evil Queen from Snow White, continues to shut me out. The few times I've been able to speak to my father, he sounds weak, tired, and done with life. He didn't expect, "the process to be so lengthy." Mind you, his father died from lung cancer. His brother died from lung cancer. He's read my book about my sister's journey (note: not his daughter) with liver cancer. I told him fighting cancer is a full-time job and a f**king slog.

After months of (what I believe to be) immunotherapy for his lung cancer, he is scheduled for surgery on April 2. While I'm happy he's finally having surgery to remove the one contained tumor, my stepmother will not confirm if the surgeon understands the significant risks given the micro blood clots in my dad's lungs (caused by long covid). Last year, my dad had a pulmonary embolism. He almost died. And he wasn't even in surgery.

Prayers are welcome for his health and for my heart. Thank you.

💙Andrea

[DancingEyes63 Moderator Caregiver]

Oh my friend, I am so sorry that you are going through this. I swear it seems like we are dealt the most pain by our so called "family members". I don't understand why she evidently perceives you as a threat except that she wants to keep control of him and the situation. I would be thrilled to have a step daughter as knowledgeable and willing to do whatever to help. It's sad that the fairy tale is often right and step-mothers and biological mothers are sometimes the evil queens. I've never had a Step-Mom because my parents were married 51 years until my Daddy's death but my Mom could sure give any Evil Queen a run for their money. As far as my Daddy's was concerned, I believe Mom's reasons were control, jealousy, money and a way to hurt me. I just can't understand a wife not wanting the best outcome for her husband, no matter where the help came from. I'd have been tempted to take help from the devil himself to save Jimmy. I'm still praying for you because I know how this has to hurt and how stressful because she has made sure that you are shut out. Sending you love and hugs always. Sharon ❤️

[bwpickard Caregiver]

Andrea covering your dad in prayer for no complications and complete healing and for you to have peace amidst the storm of your stepmom. Also praying that her heart would be changed!!!🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻Blessings always! Bonnie

[Foxy1977 Moderator Patient]

Oh, Andrea--this is heartbreaking. I'm so sorry. I'm sending so much good energy your way & his of course 💖

[Dachshund45 Patient]

Andrea. I hope things go well for him. As you might remember my experience with my step grandmother, being shut out like you are some alien is so aggrivating, unfair, and just plain cruel. Good luck to you and your father.