A bad day for him today. He was sick before I got there, had a temperature and Dr thinks an infection. They've sent cultures off so they know what antibiotics to give him. Because of that, he's very confused, he mimed to me that the nurse is trying to kill him, I said no, she's trying to help you. He mimed her injecting him and I told him it's the medicine going through the cannula, he shook his head no! He kept rolling his eyes at me when she came near him, and in the end he pushed my hand away and pointed at me and said I was helping her to kill him. Then he wanted to go back to bed, so as they were doing that, he was sick again, so they've injected loads of fluids. His temperature has come down and they've had to give him meds to raise his BP.Physio couldn't get him moving this morning as he was ill, but she said his arms, legs and core are really strong so they'll get him standing tomorrow. I, of course, made a total dick of myself on the way off the ward and couldn't stop crying, they were all so lovely.
Trouble is it may be 2 or 3 days before he gets antibiotics as the results may be slow. Also because of this they've put ventilator number back up to 2, so that will delay everything else.
Rang 5.30 this morning ( Wednesday ) he hasn't been sick again but was non compliant. Guessing they won't be standing him up today. No antibiotics until cultures come back which could be days, he's going to be even worse.
So sorry to hear that hubby has taken a little turn downwards yesterday and was feeling so rough. Did he manage to understand it was your anniversary? I'm sure the correct antibiotics will soon work their magic and get him back up and on the mend again after this temporary blip. It is good that he wasn't sick again overnight.
Don't worry about showing your emotions, that's part of your healing too.
He knew it was our anniversary, but he was too poorly to really care. I understand that, it's the fact it may be Friday before they even give him antibiotics that concerns me, he could be so much worse by then.
Oh, he must have been feeling so rough, I'm sorry. At least he knew it was your special day, even if he didn't feel like responding then, the day will come. I'm sure the staff will be doing all they can in the meantime to make him feel more comfortable. Hugs xx
Really sorry to hear this, a good cry every now and again will do you good and people will understand so don’t feel bad at all! Hopefully the results will be back soon and although heartbreaking for you,,your husband probably won’t have any memory of his strange feelings….draw on the positive that they are saying he’s strong physically…my thoughts are with you both .x
I'm so sorry that his progress has taken this knockback . Its the most natural thing to cry when you are so worried and I'm sure the nurses are well used to it, i have a tendency to cry weirdly worse when im angry. They will push for his results and meanwhile can control his temperature and other symptoms, as they said he is strong and will hopefully come back from this quickly xxx
Really sorry to hear this, and bless you, it's natural to cry over such a setback. With the good care that hubby has, I trust he will soon make a turn for the better again. He's stronger now, though no doubt exhausted and troubled by the continuing interventions and medication. (Confusion and non-compliance were problems when my own partner became feverish during his illness.) The ventilator is a setback, but gives time for hubby's further healing while the cultures are tested.
Hold on, Castleview, reach out to your friends and family, perhaps even your GP if anxiety and lack of sleep are affecting your own health. As ever, my thoughts are with you both. xx🙏💞
You didn't make a fool of yourself, of course you felt upset , seeing our loved ones feeling distressed makes us feel distressed.You are only human , although you've been showing a Superhuman level of courage and strength through this which you should be very proud of.
Perhaps all the excitement of being married 25 years took a toll on his energy.
It's a set back , and it feels worse when the infection can cause mental health or emotional symptoms, but you know that's not him talking it's the affect of the infection and he won't even remember that he acted like this when he improves again and new antibiotics start to do their job.
What the physio said is positive and promising. If his body is still strong and his muscles are still fine after weeks being inactive it all helps your hubby to be able to keep fighting and knock this new infection on the head. You clearly looked after him very well before his illness and kept him fit.
Recurring infections can be common if a patient has had more severe problems after surgery , they are weaker and their immune systems will be lower but despite causing distressing symptoms they are manageable. Once under control your husband will become his old self and get back on the rocky road to recovery again.
You try and get some rest and do go and stay with someone or call friends if you need a bit of company, big hugs , Bee
I'm so sorry to hear of the setback Castleview, my heart goes out to you. When we have temperatures and fevers we can act out of character and it's hard for us to diffentiate at the time and it hurts. But please be assured he won't remember and probably will feel awful once he's better and finds out. I understand your worry over how long it takes for those results to come back too. They will be really watching his condition though.It's so exhausting and tough on you too. Hang in there Castleview, he's strong and proven so. We're here if needed also, a lot of people care here and praying hoping for him to get better and for this infection to be treated asap. 🤞🙏xx
It's something to cover all infections I think, a broad spectrum antibiotics. My other half had that whilst waiting foe blood results on previous admission. I'm glad they've started something x
The hospital must see it all the time, patients who are admitted into hospital for long periods of time catching something so I’m sure they are very used to dealing with it, although I know it’s not nice for you to witness and must be very upsetting. He’s immune system is already low due to being poorly, so the infection has probably made him feel absolutely rubbish and being in hospital for a long time can become overwhelming for the patient as well. I would definitely call tomorrow morning and see if you can get an update on his bloods. The quicker they can start the antibiotic treatment, the better.
He’s made it through the worst part now, so just keep reminding yourself of how strong he is.
That’s good to hear. Hopefully when you call this evening to check on him, he may have settled a bit as a result of the antibiotics kicking in, even if it just the standard ones for the time being x
Aw I'm so sorry your hubby's had a set back today. He's in the best place & I'm sure he'll be ok once the antibiotics get in his system. It must be awful for you after such a positive week. Hope you find the strength to stay strong & look after yourself, cry as much as you need to. Looking forward to a happier post when he's feeling better. Take care lovely x
sad to hear this news. Again he is in the best hands, getting the best care - which very much includes you. And of course you were upset- you are worried about your husband as well as being mentally and physically exhausted- be kind to yourself. I do hope today is a better day for you both.
It's a real roller coaster for you and I have a similar roller coaster going on with my hubby very ill with pancreatic and liver cancer.The other day we got out in the car as the elusive sun made an appearance, next day he was off and needed to shut his eyes a lot and not eat much.I so feel for you and your hubby.Unfortunately I really k ow how you feel and the support you must feel on this forum is amazing.
Life must be so difficult for you both, and yet your post shows each day to have potential blessings. I'm wishing you more of that sunshine you and your husband can enjoy together 🌞
Good morning Castleview. So sorry to hear your husband has not been well. I hope the meds kick in soon and he is back on the road to recovery. It must be so hard for you. So try not to worry too much about getting upset. It's only natural and a lot of stress for you. Brian
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