I have just come in from my 45 minute visit with John, this is my last visit for a while, we were told that as from today all visiting as been suspended as there as been a surge in you know what! They will phone when we can go back so we can make our appointments again.
I really thought we were getting through this but it seems not. John being the way he is I don’t think he registered that I won’t be there for a while. I completely understand I want him and everyone else safe, but it’s so hard not knowing how long this time without being able to see him.
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Oh no,that's horrible for both of you. You'd have thought that after all this time they'd have come up with a way to enable visitors in cases like yours to be able to visit safely. I bet most of the cases have come via the staff anyway. I'm due to arrange an operation in just over a month and I'm absolutely terrified of going into hospital. I know you want to keep him safe but this is just cruelty they way they did with nursing homes..
Thank you Sunnie, he as been there since early January. It’s been one long haul. We had 10 days back in February when again all visiting was suspended. With Johns brain being so scrambled he doesn’t register what I am saying, so make things really difficult.Hope your doing better,
I'm almost afraid to say for fear of jinxing it, but I am seeing some improvement. I only wish the same for you and your husband.
I've been taking a break from the forum to concentrate on getting past my wobbles but I did know he'd been in hospital, I was just hoping he had been improving - doesn't sound as though he is and my heart breaks for you both and the rest of the family.
So glad things are looking up, will keep my fingers crossed for you. Like you have not been on the forum much this year though have been reading the posts while I drink a cup of coffee. Afraid my brain was more in John mode than anything else!
So sorry to hear that, Pauline. You could use this extra time to work on your own strength, so you will be better placed to be able to help John when he gets home.
Good for you to find the motivation to take some time for yourself. It is so hard when your mind is jumbled with care for your husband. Best eishes and prayers to you and your family.😃💚💐🙏🙏🙏
Johns brain is so scrambled that he doesn’t process information, he can be there but fleetingly. Today I was trying to tell him that I wouldn’t be in for a little while because of the C word but he was convinced it was foot and mouth and the poor farmers were going to lose their stock. Just go day to day and see what happens, last time it was 10 days so not too bad.
Oh Pauline I am so sorry to hear that, I really thought there were no more restrictions on visiting in hospital's any more as they are so important for both patients and relatives. I hope you are keeping all right at the moment and you will enjoy the classes you have booked. I am not very good at joining things I have just been out walking, weather permitting! Take care and let me know how John is doing, hopefully it won't be too long until you can visit again.char xx
I’ve been thinking about you and your husband Pauline. You are always in my thoughts. I’m so sorry that things are getting the way they are again. I’m sure it’s going to be difficult for you not seeing him for a while. You’ve both been through so much.
Everyone on here knows how supportive you are of others. I know you have a close family so please find comfort there.
These last few months have been so difficult, I keep thinking that one day he will be back but he can be there for a few minutes and then he slips through my fingers again. They have now said he as had multiple strokes at leading 3, so wether his brain can reconnect they just don’t know.
Will just see how long this lockdown of the hospital will be this time.
I decided with prodding from our sons that I had to get stronger with the hope at some point he will come home. So I rejoined the gym! So tomorrow I have my first session at Aquafit, and next Tuesday my first Tai Chi class! The instructor who saw me through my rehab thinks it’s a good way for me to go. So I will grit me teeth and get on with it 😂
Hope your doing well, and your getting on with your life.
I wish you all strength and hope that you can visit John soon. We all know how helpful you are making us feel better, I hope we can do the same for you on this forum. Enjoy your exercise but rest as well lots of love Caroline
I am so sorry to read that you will have to endure more separation. Its all very cruel. Pray that you can get to see him again very soon. Meanwhile enjoy the classes and keep us up to speed with John's condition. Hugs.
Oh, that’s not good! The situation where you are must be worse than Grampian, who are now experimenting with longer visiting hours on some wards. Hopefully it won’t be long before you can visit regularly again.Wishing you both all the best. Jane
Hello Pauline. So sorry to hear your news. May God comfort you both. You are good to book some classes. Covid is on the rise here in London, people not wearing masks or no hand sanitizing. So sad after all people have suffered. Hopefully you will be able to visit your John again before too long. Prayers for you and your family x x
So sorry to read this Pauline. Sending you a big virtual hug and hoping and praying that your husband’s health will improve too. All bests wishes to you lovely lady.
Sarah
I can’t actually put into words how sorry I feel for you. My heart goes out to you and your husband in this dreadful situation. I really hope you can visit again very soon. 💕
Well here I am back from the gym and Aquafit, considering I was a bit nervous it was fine. Just made my son laugh, 40 old ladies jumping up and down in a swimming pool caused some very large waves! I kept going for the whole of the 45 minutes there were no breaks so I impressed myself. Though when I got out at the end my legs felt a bit cotton woolly! It didn’t last long just for a few steps.
If there is a chance that I can get John home then I need to be stronger so next Tuesday I am starting Tai Chi. Son says I need to strengthen my core!
Thank you for thinking of us, sometimes I just wonder what’s next!
Whatever’s next you’ll meet it head on. But let’s hope it’s John coming back home to some quality time.
If the son whose laughing is the one living in the South of England, I can go kick him in the shins for you if you like. But only if he can’t run at all so he can’t catch me when I try to run away 🤣🤣🤣🤣
Aw Pauline. Thats awful news regarding the visiting. I work in a nursing home and I know how hard it is on people not seeing their loved ones both from a relative and patient point of view. Sending love,hugs and prayers to both you and John. Julie xx
Because Johns brain is so scrambled I don’t think it’s worth trying, when I tried to tell him that there was a surge in Covid he thought it was Foot and Mouth and the farmers were going to lose their stock. Some visits I can get a few minutes when he is with me but then he slips through my fingers.Will just have to see from day to day.
So sorry to read this, Pauline. Because of the other news, the C situation has been pushed to the side, and all we know is that most regulations were scrapped at the end of Feb, so most people are no longer bothering with masks, and don't need to self-isolate if they test positive. Obviously that's leading to another rise in cases.
Feel for you Pauline. When my husband was admitted to hospital with acute heart failure in June 2020 it was right in the middle of the big lockdown and no visiting allowed at all. He was so ill I'm not sure he really registered that I couldn't visit but for me it was the worst time. Hope you have a phone contact at least. Thoughts with you both.
Hi. Are there no exceptions to visiting. I was in hospital for 7 weeks over dec & Jan with endocarditis and subsequent emergency heart surgery and the hospital gave my husband an exception to visit although all other visits had been stopped due to covid. I was very poorly but I was stable so it wasn’t a case of palliative care. Obviously I felt guilty about other folk not getting visits but my mental health was not at all good and I was depressed and anxious. I think the matron on the ward just decided that my husband’s visits were essential to my health and put me in a side room where he could visit. He took a covid test before every visit and took the test with him to show the staff. I am immensely grateful to the hospital staff for their help. Is it worth speaking to the matron to see if any exceptions can be made? I know the hospitals I’ve been in recently are able to bend the rules in certain circumstances.
I'm so sorry to hear that not only is John not improving but that you now cant visit him. That must be so difficult for you. Fingers crossed 🤞 that the unmentionable situation improves quickly. Is there anyway that hospital could arrange some sort of video link or facetime (I've no idea how either of them work) it would certainly help put your mind at ease to some extent. xx
Because Johns brain is so scrambled don’t think he would realise what was going on, I tried to explain that I wouldn’t be in for a while because of the c word and he started talking about foot and mouth. He thinks that’s what is happening.We are now talking about him going in to a nursing home environment. I have been expecting it but am still shell shocked, kept hoping that he would come back, having conversations with our sons the eldest is in Australia so getting us all together is a bit problematic!
Just had a phone call from the ward John as now tested positive with c so far he doesn’t have any symptoms normal temperature and he is eating and drinking. It’s just one thing after the other!
Oh that is such a shame & such a worry for you. Hopefully he won't be too poorly. It might help to know that my husband is really poorly and we both caught it just recently. He sailed through it with with no symptoms, we only knew he had it because I caught it and was really poorly with it so we kept testing him because he goes to the local hospice. He tested negative after only 4 days!! I really hope that's the same for John xx
He as now been moved onto a c ward, spoke to them this morning and he is still not showing any symptoms. But now I have tested positive this morning! Have a really bad headache, and sore throat. Will just see what happens over the next few days.
Hi Pauline , sorry you’re going through such a rough time . You are always so kind and caring , taking the time to reply to other peoples worries . I pray things pick up soon xxx
Thank you so much for your post. I am feeling a bit rough at the moment, very tired and very sore throat thank goodness the headache as abated.Will keep plodding on, nothing else to do. Hoping he is strong enough to fight it,
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