Used all my spoons and a ladle !!!

[Fluffybee]

Oh Milkfairy ..,,

Should’ve stopped at the spoons but oh no, I thought why not go for a ladle 🙄

Bad choice!!!!! I had to go to the hospital with someone today for results of a biopsy suspecting cancer so stress causing chest pain and into my arms.

It actually started as soon as I got up so thought, here we go it’s going to be one of those days!!!!

Had several things to do to help people at work who I don’t work for anymore but cannot stand to see them struggle with the basics.

So did that, think that was the last spoon, then ‘the ladle’ came out....., putting bins out and watering the garden just pushed me over the edge.

All my own doing and as I came to the last things to do I knew I was pushing it but jobs needed doing.

Just feel a bit sorry for myself now and think, is this how life is going to be now.

😢 sorry about the downer, I’ll be back to my usual self tomorrow I’m sure 😃

[Milkfairy Heart Star]

Fluffybee

Even after 8 years I still go though all my spoons and just do too much.

It is really difficult however you do have to look after yourself first.

Learn to use a word that perhaps is not familiar to you ? No.

It is okay for you to say no to others and save your spoons for you.

Tomorrow is another day as they say!

[Fluffybee in reply to Milkfairy]

Thank you, I do have trouble saying no!!!! I don’t letting people down and want to help, but no is the word I need to work on, my spoons are precious 😇

[McFox68 in reply to Fluffybee]

If you cant say " no " just tell them "I'm disinclined to acquiesce to your request " 😂 pinched it from Pirates of the Caribbean.

But seriously though, I'm like you, I like to help out. But now realise, the only person who is going to look after me is me, put yourself first and protect the spoons, i am. 😀

Take care and slow down, stay safe.

[Fluffybee in reply to McFox68]

That’s brilliant, I’m going to go for that one, may get an odd look but it will sort the situation out 😂😂😂😂

I’ve started to sort myself out, I’ve sadly given up loads of work. That was very hard to do.

It’s got to the point I realise I’m finding it harder to do things without feeling unwell during or afterwards.

Until having this just before Xmas, well looking back I’ve had symptoms for quite a while before and brushed them of. I was always on the go, I literally hardly ever sat down.

Different story now but seeing some good things in slowing down.

You also take care and look after yourself 😃

[Whatamug1 in reply to Fluffybee]

You're obviously a very capable person Fluffybee and people trust and rely on your unselfishness and skills. It's amazing how they all disappear when you need them. That's when most of us actually find out that we are dispensable. The only thing I put myself out for now are the birds, bees and garden. This ensures continuing life for our planet and all humans etc. It's not selfishness, it's preservation ! So now that no-one 'asks' any more, I consider myself a volunteer conservationist ! ;))