Feeling sad

[Skyp]

8 years since mum went miss her so much. Lost my sister 8 weeks ago. A massive void in my life

[kenster1 Volunteer]

hi sorry to hear of the loss of your sister god bless her you and the family.also sorry to hear about your dearest mum sure bet you had her in your thoughts today.take care.

[chloe40 Administrator]

Sending love & strength Skyp

<3

[Skyp in reply to chloe40]

Finding it so hard. My brother in law is broken x

[chloe40 Administrator in reply to Skyp]

Hi Skyp I really wish I could offer you a solution, it's an incredibly difficult situation to be in.

I wondering if your brother-in-law has close friends who can offer support, that will at least give you the opportunity to do what you need right now and that's grieve.

One thing you could suggest is he contact a Bereavement Support charity, some offer a visiting service, and would be able to visit him regularly, that will help. Also if he has any close friends that may offer a little support , even by phone, it all helps.

You could suggest he make a memory box, filling it with small items of your sisters that mean a great deal to him, cards, letters photos, gifts etc, it's very comforting to have it close by and he can go through it at times he wants to reflect on his dear wife x

Chloe x

[chloe40 Administrator]

Hi again Skyp Have a look at the Bereavement resources under Community guidelines on the right hand side, I'm hoping there is something there will be useful to you and your brother-in-law.

Chloe <3

[Skyp in reply to chloe40]

Hi chloe. Yes he had made a memory box. He had one consultation by phone. Where as I feel he would benefit from face to face councelling. I will look at bereavement resources thank you for pointing me in the right direction. It's so sad. He says he will never get over it. It's very very early days and still so raw x

[chloe40 Administrator]

Hi Skyp

It's because it is such early days that many counsellors wouldn't offer long term support. It used to at least 6months after a bereavement before they'd offer an appointment, as we need time to adjust naturally but that may have changed.

Chloe

[Skyp in reply to chloe40]

Yes very early days. When my mum passed my gp would not prescribe anything as said grief had to come out. As we know grief effects people in different ways. I am glad I found this site. Its good to be able to express my feelings and so many lovely people on here

[chloe40 Administrator]

Thank you 🙏

[RoseyViolet]

OHHHH... that's soo soo hard to deal with the loss of such close, special people in your life. You are not alone! Take baby steps back to a new normal, focus on trying to be good to yourself and to realize that grief is a process that is taken in your own space and time and way. I've lost both my sisters, I get it. It hurts crazy bad, but honor them by taking care of you and loving on those still left around you. Tears are healing, they help us so much.

[Bella_lee]

Hi Skyp this is so sad to read, I'm so sorry for your loss.

I pray for comfort and strength for you and for your brother in law. No words are ever sufficient at times like this but please feel free to keep expressing how you're feeling as we are all here to support each other.

Sending you much hugs )))