Do you experience any lingering emotions you just can't shake off many months/years after your loss?

[chloe40]

Please post here, I value your input.

Chloe

[Caza]

Yes loads:Regret

Guilt

Searing Pain

Depression

To name but a few

& you?

[chloe40 Administrator in reply to Caza]

Thank you Caza Oh yes me too,

Regret is a huge one

Guilt that I should have been there

Pain that rarely leaves me

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[Sandradsn]

I have an underlying sadness and still tearful,it won't go.Husband thinks I should tell dr ,he thinks I'm depressed.

[chloe40 Administrator in reply to Sandradsn]

I think maybe your husband is right Sandradsn It can’t hurt having a chat.

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[GoGo_JoJo in reply to Sandradsn]

Nothing wrong with being tearful but hopefully you're getting more time in between episodes. I still cry randomly, often when moved by something completely unrelated. 💖

[Sandradsn in reply to GoGo_JoJo]

I've just got back from a walk around the park,watching the ducks there made me feel tearful.🙄🤔

[chloe40 Administrator in reply to Sandradsn]

Ooh Sandradsn Sandra,

It does catch us out when we least expect it, so sorry {{{hugs}}}

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[GoGo_JoJo in reply to Sandradsn]

That's OK. I didn't cry at the Titanic film but now I can cry at the sight of a beautiful tree, or a soaring buzzard. Just let it out. It's really OK. We can't keep it bottled up all the time 💖

[Sandradsn in reply to GoGo_JoJo]

Ok thank you GoGo_JoJo🙂

[GoGo_JoJo in reply to Sandradsn]

The more important thing is to let the joy in too. I can find a babbling brook just a great source of joy or a beautiful sunset. Let yourself feel the good and wonder too. It should help to balance things out 💫

[chloe40 Administrator in reply to GoGo_JoJo]

You're right of course and I certainly understand how the beauty of nature can make us weep <3

[GoGo_JoJo]

Of course:

Sadness at lives either lost too soon or not having been able to live to their fullest

Abandonment

A sense of futility to all that we do

Fear of ending up in a protracted, painful illness leading to a frightened death

Not guilt or regret thankfully 🤔 I'm happy with my choices and decisions.

[chloe40 Administrator]

Thanks GoGo_JoJo

I am pleased you have no regrets or guilt 💜

[Josephine13halffull]

I find the emotions I felt about the way my Husbands death came about are still the same as they were when it happened when I think about it. I tend not to dwell for too long and put it away for another day so to speak in my box.

[chloe40 Administrator in reply to Josephine13halffull]

Hi Josephine13halffull

Yes, I can understand that, I think it's the same for most of us <3

I'm loving that box

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[Hidden]

Yes: Depression, severe sense of loss, uncontrollable crying episodes, and flashbacks of last breath. 😭

[chloe40 Administrator]

I’m so sorry Hidden That’s very distress for you.

I too have the flashbacks so I really empathise x

May I suggest you have a chat with your Doctor, they may be able to help, please do let me know how it goes.

<3

[Hidden in reply to chloe40]

I sure will. My next appt is Friday and we will going over my trauma timetable. I will let you know how it goes. x

[chloe40 Administrator in reply to Hidden]

Hi Hidden I’m glad to read this.

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[Hidden in reply to chloe40]

Sorry Chloe44 for not being online for a while. Anyways, I did talk to my therapist and we went over my trauma timeline. We are starting a course of grief therapy along with PTSD/Depression. She's giving me exercises to work on a some videos to watch. It's going to be a long road ahead.

[chloe40 Administrator in reply to Hidden]

Hi Hidden Please don’t apologise, we’re here for you whenever you want us.

That’s excellent news, I’m so pleased for you {{{hugs}}}

Please stay in touch when you can, it will be nice to know how you’re getting on.

Chloe <3

[kenster1 Volunteer]

emotions after loss never go away but in time we manage them better.they might not be visible emotions but inside we will always hurt more so on a birthday anniversary or Christmas.

[Daddysgirl1982]

I'm always thinking about my daddy