Weddings

[Caza]

My friends son is getting married today. They’re finding it so hard. It’s almost three years since her husband died. So hard to know what to say to her. How have others dealt with this?

[chloe40 Administrator]

Hi Caza I haven’t experienced this but I hope another member will post.

All I can say is if you can, be there for her to prop her up, it’s going to be very difficult so she’ll need a special friend 💜

[Caza in reply to chloe40]

Unfortunately she now lives quite a distance from me but absolutely knows I’m here for her 24/7.

[Hidden]

No need to say anything.

Just be there for her and say if she wants to talk you are available.

It hurts though when you see others experiencing things you wanted for yourself but sadly lost out on.

[Caza in reply to Hidden]

She knows I’m there for her 24/7. We’ve been in close contact throughout. She’s doing okish

[RoseyViolet]

Sometimes the most loving thing we can do for someone who is grieving is to just be there for them during one of the most difficult times, yet again, in their life. If she wants to cry, cry with her or be a caring shoulder for her to lean into giving a hug. Grief is fickle and it comes and goes, even 3 years past the event. Just being there for your friend will speak volumes to her. Perhaps sending her a special journal that she can write to her deceased husband all of the special memories of enjoying her son's wedding can help to keep his memory and inclusion alive as well as giving your friend a "space/place" to write out her thoughts, feelings and words that she would have liked to say to him. It has helped me quite a bit.

[Caza]

Unfortunately because of covid I couldn’t be with her in person but have been in close contact via the phone etc…. I did send her a journal but she’s not up to writing in it yet. Thanks for replying