Decision making

[Nxjajoaa]

Is it better to go home and be ostracised by your own family or is it better to live alone in a foreign country? Both options are painful. Either you go home and everything is fine for some weeks but then slowly everyone drifts apart and my parents will blame me for all issues because we aren't really that close. So even though I’ll be surrounded with people, I’ll be alone inside and hurt by their words. Or i can stay at my current location with my friend and not return home. My friend is working so I’ll be alone at the room most of the time and i will have a pet friend at least but not sure if i can live with her during the pandemic. Ps recently I’ve lost my boyfriend to suicide so I’m very disturbed and cannot take decisions properly. I dont know which decision will hurt less.

[chloe40 Administrator]

Hello Nxjajoaa A very warm welcome to you.

This is such a difficult decision to make, I can appreciate everything you have said and although you’re options may be limited you are safe where you are with your friend.

One day when you’re feeling up to it, you may even follow a new career here, make more friends and feel so much stronger for it.

Really, you should never make big decisions like this during bereavement but if you are forced to then please think very carefully, life will get better one day.

Please take care of yourself, we’re always here for you.

Chloe x

[GoGo_JoJo]

Really tough decision to make at the best of times, let alone now....

Could you perhaps return to your family briefly, say a few weeks? You might get more support than you think but before the usual familial resentments creep in return to your friend and then consider where you will go from there?