What Does It Mean Why People Touch Your Arm ,Or Your Shoulder?

[Ibbi]

So this happens to me a lot ,men and women do it all the time. For some reason people tend to touch my shoulders ,or arm ,but with me having PDD NOS ,I struggle to know what it means.

[Glad2BDifferent]

Hello lbbi

For many mundanes, this touching you thing is both an indication of they are comfortable around you and themselves as well as it can also be a way of warning you they are in your personal space and do not want to alarm you about the fact.

I never understood it until it was explained. Oh and it also can mean they are attracted to you as well, but I never assume it is that one as I am not interested in pair bonding nor would I respect anyone who touched me without permission in the first place.

Mainly it is meant in a friendly way, so just tell them you are not comfortable with unnecessary touching so that they know not to do it in future.

Hope that helps

[Ibbi in reply to Glad2BDifferent]

It depends on how well I know the person. I don't like strangers touching me.

[Glad2BDifferent in reply to Ibbi]

I know the feeling (no pun intended)

I deliberately jump when people do it and immediately tell them not to do so again. It works 95 percent of the time and they normally apologise at that point and it's dealt with. I find it is not just the assumption that they can touch me, it it the germs, the shock and the intense sensation that all go hand in hand. I had desensitisation therapy and that helped me so much. It is like taking a tiny bit of poison every day you eventually get immune to it.... the therapy is to have people you do know and trust to touch you as often as possible and I got used to it happening even though it was both upsetting and quite the annoyance in the beginning. Now I can handle cuddles and things of that nature but I l still jump when it is out of the blue.

Just explain what you are and are not comfortable with or do the passive agressive way and freak out when touched.... these mundane hate a scene when they are in the middle of it Tee-hee-hee