Update on my nieghbour

[cales]

Ok so after a lot of deliberation I decided to take the softly softly approach as a war with neighbours (as someone also said In one of the replies) is certainly not something I neither need or want , so I spoke briefly to him this afternoon, and tried to explain the effect strong paint etc has on My breathing , he was very apologetic and said that he’ll let us know next time he’s going to be doing paint spraying so we can shut all our windows 😳🥴 not ideal but at least it’s avoided bad feeling for now 😊

Thank you all so much for listening and offering so much very good advice which I will be keeping on hand just incase things get out of hand , my impression of the neighbour is that he’s very sweet and nice to your face but does what he wants anyway 😳 ……… so watch this space

Anyway I’m off to put my costume on and have a float in the hot tub while the air is clear 😀

[sassy59]

Oh well cales that’s a start. The softly softly approach will be ok for now but keep a check on him.

Enjoy your hot tub. 😀👍🤗💖xxx

[cales in reply to sassy59]

I intend to sassy because I’ve had 8 blissful years here and I love my house and village I’m not about to let someone spoil that for me

As a foot note I have contacted the h/a a while ago when he first put the shed up but they are unable to do anything because it’s actually on the field which is not owned by them , however I have found a environmental form that I can fill out for the local council to make them aware of what’s going on so if the soft approach fails I will have to go further xxxx

[sassy59 in reply to cales]

Good for you cales and good luck. Xxx🤗😀

[Sgt_Pepper in reply to cales]

Use the form you have found to inform the council anyway - from what you say it sounds very unlikely that what your neighbour is doing is strictly legal but (and I speak from bitter experience!) getting something done about it is another matter. In the end you have to make a choice and I would suggest that upsetting your neighbour is something you will just have to live with! Good luck!

[Alberta56 in reply to cales]

The Council f they act will almost certainly be discrete and not tell your neighbour who complained. He will probably guess.

[MELNEL]

LOL I want to see your float in hottub in your costume 😂 sorry LOL 😋Well good that you spoken to him I hope he will remember that, but also think to move to a different part to Spray paint his items.

Hope he doesn't do it regularly.

Enjoy your bathing 🛀🛀🛀☺️

[2greys]

You have placed the ball in his court, he either plays nicely with it or kicks it to one side. If it is the later then bring out the big guns. Asking first if it is okay, should have been his reply. He is spoiling the enjoyment of your own home, which includes your garden, and that is not allowed, period. What he is doing is actually illegal. I suspect he will carry on pleasing himself, you have been too soft and no doubt he will take advantage of that. I wish you the best of luck sorting out this horrible problem, that is not of your making.

[cales in reply to 2greys]

Thank you 2 greys I don’t think for one minute that this is over and it’s frustrating that if he decides he wants to spray paint on a nice day that he will just expect to tell me and I will meekly shut my windows and doors , but last summer we would sit in the garden of an evening till quite late having quiet chats or just sitting in the peace and quiet x

[kibera]

If he is doing a lot of spray painting, it should be done in a special booth, not in the open air causing pollution. It is likely other people nearby are affected as well, so really the environmental health department of your council should be informed.

[2greys in reply to kibera]

That is a very valid point, health and safety dictate that it should be confined in an air tight booth along with filtered fume extraction. Yet another regulation that he is breaking. A rogue operation, that should be closed down for his own health and safety, as well as for his neighbours.

[Annie31 in reply to 2greys]

One of my son-in -laws has a booth with filtered extraction, also it was built in a huge barn on his parents land. They cost a fortune to build and run efficiently. It's obvious this chap is cutting corners! I don't even understand why the dog cages have to be painted necessarily unless it's just for aesthetic reasons of course!

[cales in reply to Annie31]

Well he’s definitely cutting corners x

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People can be very two faced when it comes to other people's illnesses and health problems so just keep an eye out and don't be bullied , enjoy the hot tub 👍👍👍

[CaptainPugwash]

At Least The Chat Went Ok See How It Goes Next Couple Of Weeks Enjoy Your Family Weekend Hot Tub Dipping Take Care Keep Safe 🖤🖤

[Davegt]

Oh that is good news. Adopting the softly softly approach worked then. Hopefully you will be able to live in harmony and not get all stressed about things. 👍👍😀

[cales in reply to Davegt]

Well it’s a start but we shall see how it works out I’m not convinced this is going to be enough but if it proves to be not working then I will be getting intouch with the local council/ environmental health department because it’s not fair for me to be restricted in my own home and garden

I’m hoping that it doesn’t get that far though

[Annie31]

I think you are right to go down this road in the first instance because then agencies etc will be able to see that you have tried to reach an agreement over this. I don't think many people like confrontation and between neighbours can be some of the worst. Presumably you didn't involve your son which, again, I think is the right approach. It would have placed him in an invidious position with the force, and even perhaps have given your neighbour the opportunity to complain about him in the future if it ever gets that far. Hopefully it wont!

[cales in reply to Annie31]

No I didn’t involve my son I agree with what you have said , he advised me to try talking first then if that fails to go down the environmental/health route as there would be very little the police can do realistically apart from warn him off , I just hope he abides what he says and should he say he’s spray painting he can respect that I might say I’d rather he didn’t especially if I have family/ or friends here as it is him that’s encroaching on my space and freedom not me on his xxx

[briany in reply to cales]

helo, im glad you have got some response from your neighber, for years i complained to my neighber about the noise, i meen real loud, i started softly softly, yes they said sorry ok for couple months, and then back to deafning music, in the end i said to them if you cant stop i will phone landlord, then thee daughte aged about 16 came round effing and blinding, i did report it and made sure they knew it was from me, the noise has mostly stopped and my neighbers glare at me when im out,

they know im old and have empherseyma, and when they have a bq they keep playing another one bites the dust, ,

so what im saying is think very carefully before the next step, its not nice being on the end of nasty comments, i am stil glad i did report it but its sad, as we had been good neighbers for years

hope it all works out for you

briany

[cales in reply to briany]

We have had bad experiences with neighbours years ago to the point where we had to change the kids schools and eventually had to move so certainly not a road I want to go down again especially now being elderly and ill so my hope is that this can be resolved amicably I think if we both mutually respect each other’s space and opinions it should be ok but only time will tell xx