TTC #3

[KeiraMarie]

hey guys, you may remember my post from the other week on about how much we would so love to add a third to our little team..

well… we’ve DTD all through my fertile window this week & as much as I’m excited if I do fall pregnant I’m also a tad anxious as I guess it’s a huge shock & given how I was last time round I just hope & pray all will be okay 🤞🏻

For those who did fall pregnant again after been unwell how did you handle the situation? Was you more anxious/nervous? Or much better prepared as you knew what to look out for?

I really hope this is our month as we was super lucky when we conceived our son 3 yr ago first cycle..

I think I really want this & I’ve dreamed & hoped of a happy ending & having a smooth pregnancy & postpartum

Anyone gone through this?

🤍

[Maria_at_APP Moderator]

Hi KeiraMarie, I can empathise with that anxious feeling. A lot of it went away when I was referred to my local perinatal team, I knew them from before and I trusted their advice. I also trusted myself and my husband so much more knowing what to be on the lookout for. Knowledge is a powerful tool, don't underestimate it. If I compare it to the level of anxiety I felt when close relatives and close friends gave birth, I felt much less with my own second pregnancy specially towards the end (strange, I know). Being in the driving seat made me feel so much more in control.

Best of luck to you, and take very good care

Maria

[Cheryl-2021 Volunteer in reply to Maria_at_APP]

I second Maria here with the power of knowledge and support. I was anxious around it, but mainly out of fear of what the psychosis would have me saying to family members. Thankfully I didn't experience it second time round 💜

[Rkmummy Volunteer]

Hi KeiraMarie,

I think I was nervous about the risk of it all happening again, I’m sure it’s fairly normal after having pp.

Once I was pregnant I went to my gp and asked to be referred to the perinatal team, that helped me feel in control and know what was going to happen if I needed any support.

Good luck

Rk

[Jenny_at_APP Partner]

Hi KeiraMarie,

I definitely went through anxious times with my second pregnancy but I felt very reassured that the risk was known and we had lots of support in place. We planned for the worst and hoped for the best - we knew what we’d do if I did become unwell again, and as others have said that definitely helped me to feel more in control.

There wasn’t a perinatal mental health team in my area at the time but I did get outreach support. It feels like the support is much better now so I hope you’ll be well looked after.

I hope you have all of APP’s information and resources and that writing here and sharing experiences will be helpful to you too.

Take good care, wishing you all the best ☺️

Jenny x

[Arabella-]

hello lovely,

I have three children and had PP with my first. I was very lucky and had an amazing perinatal psychiatric team. I took Olanzapine (still do) and it works a treat. I also have sertraline as I’m bipolar.

The thing is, the benefits of having a new life far outweigh the shit of PP! So, I’d go for your third with hope and happiness 😀

Sending hugs 🤗 Xx

[YellowBanana09]

hi KeiraMarie,

Very much agree with everything already said… have your plan in place, reach out for support etc. I had pp with my first baby but not my second (I too took olanzapine as a preventative measure) and I actually found the birth of my second a very healing experience. I have since had one scare where I had early warning signs of psychosis and because I knew the symptoms I was able to get help immediately and back on olanzapine, which was scary but actually empowering too because I was in control and got the help I needed quickly.

Hope you are well xx

[Ramlah_at_APP Volunteer]

Hi KeiraMarie,

Fingers crossed you get your BFP this cycle .

It’s completely normal to feel anxious to go through pregnancy again , especially after PP. I have two children , I had PP with my firstborn which was 8 years ago , then went on to have my second child two years ago . Thankfully I didn’t have PP second pregnancy but I did have postpartum depression; Due to the fact that it was Covid times and I wasn’t able to mingle and be around my my loved one and friends .

Hopefully not will be different for you , do you have a good support system in place ?

Remember to take each day as it comes.

Take care

Ramlah

Xx

[KeiraMarie]

hey all,

Thankyou so much for all you’re lovely in depth comments I love reading them & I appreciate them so much

Sadly this cycle tho i got my period, so as much as I was a little disheartened I’m remaining positive & focusing the positives & will see what next month brings 💫🤍

I’m very much looking forward to bringing new life in to the world again & in to our crazy loving family.. I so can’t wait for that happy day & hopefully I remain well to enjoy my children & soak up that newborn bubble 🫧

Hope you’re all doing well & I’ll keep you all updated as I go along 🤍