Feeling drained

[Bumblebeeee]

Hi. It’s me again sorry. I’m supposed to have college tonight. I do want to go but I’m so psycially exhausted and tired. I fell asleep earlier for about 2 hours whilst the baby napped. I keep saying baby although she’s 19 months now. Is this still part of recovery? I just want to be normal again. But I have no energy at all and feel like I need to go to bed 😩

[Lilybeth Volunteer]

Hi Bumblebeeee

Try not to be so hard on yourself. It's not easy only months on from PP to be motivated every day, especially when you have the routine of home and keeping yourself well.

If you can, I would try to go to college tonight as it will be a break for you from routine and you did so well in your interview. It's a social space too and you might find new friends as interested as you are in the course.

I know when it's dark and you're warm at home it is an effort but as long as it's safe for you to get there and back it might boost your confidence? Just do what's best for you and don't put pressure on yourself. Take care ❤️

[Bumblebeeee in reply to Lilybeth]

Thank you. I am at college now. I fell asleep again before I came here. I don’t know what’s wrong with me today but I have no energy at all. I have just completed my first unit of work tho so I’m feeling happy now 😊 thanks as always for all your support x

[Lilybeth Volunteer in reply to Bumblebeeee]

That's great news Bumblebeeee .... you should be very proud making the effort and completing your first unit of work! Sounds like you've had some good power naps Take care going home and have a good sleep later. ❤️

[Bumblebeeee in reply to Lilybeth]

Thank you. I have just turned the page and realised I haven’t competed the first unit 😂 there’s another 4 parts of this unit. But I have completed 1:1, 1:2 and 1:3 🥳

[Lilybeth Volunteer in reply to Bumblebeeee]

😂 always the way!! Take your time .... you're doing great.

Hugs.

[Jenny_at_APP Partner]

Hi Bumblebeeee

Sorry you’re feeling so wiped out today. Sometimes it’s just a struggle to find the energy to do things isn’t it, especially at this time of year, and when mum to a 19 month old But yes recovery can be exhausting.

If you manage / have managed to find the energy to go to college I hope it goes well. Sometimes it’s good to give yourself a little push, but yes don’t put too much pressure on yourself.

Take care,

Jenny x

[Jenny_at_APP Partner in reply to Jenny_at_APP]

I’ve just seen your replies since posting this, well done for going, great stuff x

[Maria_at_APP Moderator]

Hi Bumblebeeee,

I am sorry you are feeling exhausted lately. Being a mum is an exhausting job, but do you feel this is more than just the 'normal' (whatever that means!) level of tiredness? Is this something you may want to discuss with your care team?

I am sorry that how you are feeling at the moment is making you think twice about doing the things you enjoy.

I also call mine baby and she is 16 months, I can't get over the fact that she has grown at such a fast pace!

I wish you all the best, we are always here to listen when needed.

[Maria_at_APP Moderator in reply to Maria_at_APP]

Well done! I also just saw your thread

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Hi Bumblebeeee,

Just wanted to say how amazing you are. Juggling study with parenting and recovery from ppp must take such a lot from you. Keep grabbing any chance to nap whenever you can. It's a necessary to keep you well, aid recovery and energise you. Often as mothers we don't realise just what we do in a day. Credit yourself for each thing however small it may be.

Wishing you well. Your little one will always be your baby (mine are now 39 and 37! 😂)

Sending you a virtual hug.

4mila x

[Bumblebeeee]

Thankyou everyone x

[Pikorua Volunteer]

Hello Bumblebeeee,

it is not easy to recover and being a mum with a baby/toddler.

I am not very good with routine, but know it helps my scattered mind. Thus, learning and going to a place for a purpose is so important for your well being.

Well done for going to college.

Continuity, motivation and stamina is not easy when feeling exhausted. I struggle quite often with Insomnia, and the following days are so much harder to keep going.

My son and partner are always my motivation and allow me to enjoy life on many levels. However, I need to make sure that I manage my life quality and keep well.

Thus, the following makes sense for all of us mums to keep going, even when it is that little bit harder: a good diet, take meds, exercise, journalise, meditate, hobbies, learning, try to connect with people, maybe volunteer, allow yourself me-time, doing activities with your child, see what is going on in your community, journalising tracking, time out from social media and lots more...

It takes time to figure out a new formulae for mind, body and soul. It has to be in tune with your needs, something which makes you happy and healthy.

Take good care and you are doing so amazingly well...( I am journalising in French only and each week I put down 3 positive things I've done)