I don’t know what to do

[Matt3013]

So I was medically discharged from my job two years ago following my accident and as a result still suffer with anxiety amongst other things.

I manage to keep fit and stuff but have this ongoing concern or argument with myself about work, trying to find work and build self esteem v not putting myself under pressure.

I have been offered a job and considering it, but I dont want to fail and have to stop because of my anxiety as that will set me back lots.

It’s a real balance and I don’t know the best foot forward

[Agora1]

Hi Matt, I understand how difficult it can be after 2 years.

However, if you don't try taking that step forward, you get

no where and anxiety once again wins. Of course, only you

can make that decision because the consequences are high

if you fail. At least, that is what your mind is telling you right

now which is allowing you to stay stuck.

Good Luck in the decision you make. It sounds like it's time

to move forward. xx

[Lemonyems]

Hi...I understand this. Been furloughed through lockdown and my anxiety got out of control. Now want to get back but basically worried I’ll fall over again if I push myself. However, I know it’s the anxiety telling me to be overly cautious. It’s that overly protective big brother stepping in again - mostly. I’m giving myself a few more weeks - and I guess lucky as I can go back on reduced hours. I tried a confidence hypnotherapy session the other day with my counsellor - it really helped. Will be doing a few more before I take the next step. Might be worth a try. Good luck, you will make the right decision for you

[Tranquilwaters]

Hi Matt,

I've been wondering how you've been. When my Husband had a severe breakdown and was made redundant, he found himself in a similar dilemma. He was off work and very unwell for 18 months. What helped him in his recovery and eventually back to work was volunteering. I helped him to secure one day per week at first at a country estate (total career change path for him), and told him that if he made it to the carpark and couldn't go any further, at least he tried. But he did go along that day and quite enjoyed it, albeit with his usual high anxiety. It was totally done on his terms - we didn't deal with the job centre etc. as this would have just added to the pressure.

Over a few weeks, he increased his days and his confidence grew. He was seeing a great psychologist at the time, who thought it was a great idea for him too.

Eventually after a few months, he was offered a full time position when we visited another country estate and chatted to the Head Ranger there. He has now been employed there very happily for 9 years and now he is the Head Ranger, and oversees a beautiful country estate here in Scotland with 120 acres of woodland.

There is no need to jump in with both feet if you don't feel ready, Matt. I think a similar approach to build your confidence would be ideal for you. What do you think? Does this sound more doable for you?