Possibly raped

I was in a heavy sleep when girlfriend had sex with me while I was out of it. Is that rape?

I really like this women but this was not right.

I don't know what to do.

My chest is pounding and I'm shaking just writing this.

What do I do?

[Agora1]

No it was not right Enzo22. I consider it rape. It doesn't make any difference if it's someone you care about or a stranger. It's still an invasion of your personal space. I could only imagine how your anxiety is now up for grabs. I would start with talking to her about a trust that really has been broken between you. If you can't feel safe with your girlfriend (significant other) than who can you feel safe with. Each person should respect each other. If she feels this wasn't the case that she overstepped her bounds, then depending how serious you take this, you can make a report. It may end up her word against yours as well as ruining your relationship but you are most important in this instance.

You need to feel safe when you are with someone. This broke that confidence. Good Luck Enzo. Do what you have to do. I hope you start calming down. Breathe....

[melbrown]

I have to agree with what Agora1 beautifully wrote. Rape can happen even if it's someone you are in a sexual relationship with. You were asleep, passed out.... no way could you've given consent. She had no right... & you have every right to feel hurt & upset. I would recommend contacting a rape hotline or site... someone trained to help someone in your situation. Talk to her about it, if your comfortable. Right now your feelings & safety is the most important thing. We are here... please keep us informed. 🙏

[Anxiouslizz]

1-800-656-Hope thats the RAINN network, you can also find RAINN online. I was date raped and later sexually assaulted and both times wasn't sure of what happened. You need to process and speak to people who are safe to help you through this. If you feel violated, you were, it doesn't matter what the legal or social definitions are. You know, you feel it. I didn't dismiss what happened to me because in my heart and body I knew it was wrong and it turned out both incidents WERE crimes. Even if not a crime, you've experienced trauma and need and deserve help accordingly. Much love and light to you. It doesn't matter if the other person is aware or not that it was a violation. You are aware and you will heal the wound on your terms and the trauma does not need to be validated by any other source but yourself. I've been through it. You were assaulted. I believe you 100%. Now it's time to wade through the recovery process and it starts by making that phone call.

[comb in reply to Anxiouslizz]

Wow this is exactly what I needed to hear right now. I'm dealing with delayed onset PTSD after being raped. Thank your for your words. It feels so nice to know I'm not alone.