Coping with anxiety and a sick wife.

[moley64]

Last Tuesday my wife was given a probable diagnosis of Parkinsons Disease which stunned us both. Over the last week my wife has been very poorly. In particular she has had episodes where she finds it difficult to speak. She also gets exhausted from very little effort. I have been very worried about her. Sue is due to have hospital tests in August which seems like a lifetime away.

I have attempted to be as strong and positive as I can be. I would generally describe myself as being a very positive and optimistic person, however I have found it to be difficult to have much interest in anything. I feel concern that a big wave of anxiety/panic is going to hit me. I have experienced this before where I have had an upset or bad news and a few days later panic and anxiety has set in. I do not like the hot weather and see this as another problem to be overcome.

I am trying to rediscover my sense of humour and be positive and optimistic about the future. What steps can I take?

Wishing you a great day.

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Moley

So sorry to hear about your wife & I can only imagine how this will have left you feeling & what ever I say , its easy for me to , because I am not having to go through it

I have found that the people in life I have come across , when needed they find the strength & cope with situations they would have never thought they would have dealt with ..I have a feeling "a day at a time " you will cope as well

That would be where I would start taking each day as it comes , as we only have today to live in & we don't no what tomorrow will bring

August will seem like along way , even though it will soon be here & when August comes & your wife has her appointment , keep faith as much as possible , it just may not be as bad as you are expecting & together you will deal with what ever comes your way

Sense of humour , I will try & word this carefully

I have suffered for over 30 years & its my sense of humour that at times if I had lost it , I am not sure I would be here now

I no when we are in the depths of things it can be hard , but whenever I can I try & keep hold of mine it has seen me through many a dark day

I have OCD , it ties me to the house & because of that I now have a fear of leaving the house

The other day , all my sink needed coming apart & cleaning

So hubby said don't worry I will do it , when do you want me to do it

I said O dear , wait till I am not about

He calmly said , well you are not making this easy then , you only go out twice a year & you have been once already , so that leaves me one day somewhere till the end of the year

Now the way he calmly said it , with affection , not laughing at me, but having a sense of humour ,even though he has to deal with me , made me laugh , I could see his point

Now saying that tomorrow , I have to go out , (which maybe the second time I go out this year , so he best get in there quick with the sink , but come tomorrow , I maybe in a state & not be able to find my sense of humour , but where ever I can , I do

Also I have health anxiety , now its better than it used to be ,but still there

I have been taking Asprin everyday for a few weeks & so far regular migraines I get , I havnt had one

So I was saying to a friend I think I will go & see GP

She said why

I said because Asprin seem to be stopping me from having a migraine , so I best tell her as I might have BT if Asprin are stopping my migraines

Her reply was , well you will go down in history if you are right & one Asprin a day has cured that , I wonder why they haven't saved people before now with a single Asprin a day !

Well I was serious until I heard it said that way & then I was laughing because my friends sense of humour , made me see I was over reacting again !

I need that , its not people laughing at me or taking away how serious all these things are , & how it affects me , its said with humour & as they say "laughter can be a great tonic "

I hope you find your sense of humour amongst all this , & we are all here to support you along the way , we can laugh with you , cry with you , support you , which ever one you need ,just let us no

Love

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xxxx

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Hear hear! Taking each day and just dealing with that works for me. I also find planning useful so I no wots happening helps me feel in control. Sometimes it's about taking baby steps and achieving little things. We are all here for you and your wife. please let us no how you are doing. Best wishes x