Health Issues

[WCJ2]

Does anyone out there have a health issue that isn’t too serious but a bit embarrassing? If you do, I’d really appreciate it if you had any tips with dealing with it! Not knowing how to deal with it is making me anxious.

[MadBunny]

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[BorachioHatpeg]

I suffered since I was 5 years old with regular rectal fissures due to chronic constipation. As a kid and young adult I was absolutely mortified regarding such things. I did my best to not talk about it with anyone that wasn't a medical professional. As a grown woman who's too tired to care for keeping secrets it's come up with a friend because of her health struggles. Had I still been too embarrassed to talk about it I wouldn't have been able to help her get to her proper diagnosis. It always feels good to help. I'm not suggesting you tell random friends or strangers all about an embarrassing health condition but don't feel so bad about it. We all live in a body where all kinds of embarrassing things can go wrong. If someone makes you feel bad about that make fun of their stunted mental emotional and spiritual growth😉

[WCJ2 in reply to BorachioHatpeg]

Hi! Thank you for your advice. It’s great that you were able to help your friend! I’m sorry that you had to deal with all of that, especially at such a young age. It’s something noticeable and it’s going to get worse over time, so I’m just getting a lot of anxiety over it. I know it sounds ridiculous, but I’m having a hard time looking past it. It’s really taking a toll on my self confidence. I’m not great at connecting with people in general and now I’m just worried that I’m going to let it isolate me. I’m trying hard not to, but I’m just having a really hard time seeing past it right now.

[BorachioHatpeg in reply to WCJ2]

I'm so sorry you are going through all that. I get it, I'm terrible at connecting with people no matter how lonely I get. I've been almost entirely housebound with agoraphobia for almost 20 years now. I just started trying again to get better like 6 months ago. Even this is still kind of a big deal for me. I hope you dont wind up isolating. It's awful. I don't know what your condition is but I don't need to. I had to have major surgery and almost didn't make it 4 years ago (if I had only gone to a Dr when I started feeling pain instead of hiding... ). It changed my whole body left me with major scars and aged me about a decade overnight. My self confidence was already faltering due to mental health.I say all that to say, we can overcome nearly anything somehow, even if we don't want to and even when we know we can't. It takes time, acceptance and being kind to yourself. Treat yourself the way you would treat your best friend. There is so much more to us than what's visible.

[WCJ2 in reply to BorachioHatpeg]

Thank you! I’m trying not to isolate and to look on the bright side. I had other health issues in the last couple of years that are improving so I’m trying to focus on that. I feel guilty about my situation because if I had noticed it earlier I could have done something about it, but now I can’t. So, I’m having trouble letting go of that guilt too. I know looking back doesn’t change my present, but it’s hard sometimes.

I’m sorry that you have been housebound. It’s great that you started trying to work on it again. I’m rooting for you! I’m glad that you made it through your surgery! That sounds like it was really scary. I really hope that things work out for you on your journey.