Hi guys, I’m new here
So I’ll try to give brief intro
So I was this prodigal kid who always outdid herself academically and well as ageing that power is slowly diminishing
But since i used to be like that people kinda expect me to you know always be achieving in academics I’m sort of doing well but the problem is everytime a exam comes nearby I’m so over the edge and so scared like extreme level of anxiety where killing myself feels like a better choice than attending the exams. Idk what to do
Raccoon5
Welcome to the community.
As you get higher up in education level the academics are naturally going to be more difficult.
You are only 22 
You are far from old.
Test anxiety is quite common. Just do the best you can that's all any of us can do
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This happens a lot to overachievers and perfectionists. I know cause I am one of them. the pressures to perform and act perfectly all the time like some robot. Eventually it all catches up with you. You noticed you get overly tense with things you never got anxious about before like exams.
You have to remember that these uncomfortable feelings and anxiety can't kill you. They are annoying and yeah they don't feel good. But they won't hurt you. You can get through this by telling yourself a different story in your head. Say to yourself "Okay, I have an exam. I studied as best as I can. Whatever happens, happens. I can be proud of myself. I am proud of myself."
Wishing you love and support 🫂❤️
Sometimes, when we have high expectations from others and ourselves...it's almost paralysing. The fear of failure is very debilitating. The thing is... this is your life, you don't have to justify yourself to anyone. Often when your a smart kid you get this kind of undue pressure and it's very defeating trying to live up to. Just remember...this is your life, and it's your journey,.... no one else has the right to make judgement or comment....just do your best, or not. It's your choice....and let others know... maybe you don't feel like you need their expectation of how you will do, when they probably couldn't do what you do.
I was a smart kid too...skipped two grades in school before graduating, always took excelled courses, and college prep. Carried a double major in college and the university to make everyone happy....but me. All I wanted to do was teach ceramic art....if I got a B+....it was a lecture on why not an A. 3.89 wasn't good enough....I needed a 4.0. And the pressure snapped me in two. My depression crippled me, and for years I just floated because of it.
Don't ever let anyone try and live their glory through your life....you do what you want to do, and be happy. Change your major or don't.... that's good enough. No one else need's to have an opinion.
Very well said fauxartist!
Thank you Blue.....I hope it helps that person even a little, seeing a way out of that stuff.
That’s where it’s kind of weird, at this my parents kinda stopped expecting me to uk get high grades but for some reason i have this crippling anxiety and need to do well I DON’T KNOW WHY😩
I think when we have had a lifetime of overachieving, it's just a residual way of thinking that to be successful and to not be a failure...you have to continue this. I was never good enough in my mother's eyes, she always found fault....so I just figured I needed to do everything ten times better all the time at everything I did...Till I got help later on in life...and found out that my natural abilities did afford me some level of perfection in my work that eventually led me to a successful business....So when you realize that what you do is good enough....and yes.... it may be more than another might do .... that's also a good thing for you, but don't make it a stressful issue. Just do what comes naturally to you and be okay with what ever you do is enough, and good enough. Also find fun outlets. I used to play tennis, and did ceramic art and now I paint.
Hi there sometimes people put expectations on us that are unrealistic and they force us to have anxieties over what others "expect" of us. I was the opposite I was the underachiever and grammar in high school and had to go out to a trailer to get extra help in math and reading I didn't get math until College I began at 24 and went till I was 30 and graduated with a BA in Psychology . I also want to tell you that I never read one book in college honest to God I never did cuz I hate reading period end of story I can't stand it for some reason so I never do it. I'm in auditory learner and all I did was listen to the professors and I processed the information well from what I heard and was able to reiterate that on all my tests which I passed. A fellow College classmate would always get mad at me because I would go out at night and then come home late and come in the next day and take a test and pass it while she was busy studying for the test and she made a lower grade than I did I couldn't help that I felt bad but I was just lucky that way I guess. There are three types of learners auditory which I am I just explained that you can hear what others say and reiterated on paper, visual learners that's need to see things in order to interpret it and understand it and then manual Learners and those are the people that need to feel things in order to process like those that work in manual labor jobs they are very good at manipulating objects and such which learner are you? I would also tell you to take a small tape recorder they have them for a low price these days to all of your lectures and record them so you can play them back before the tests to make it easier on you. Please don't ever commit suicide over grades that isn't worth it and so many people would miss you but I know that so many college kids think of doing this because they get so wrapped up and getting good grades and they think their parents are going to be disappointed if they don't get straight A's. I think your parents would want to have you alive than getting a report card with straight A's don't you think so too? I am a three-time suicide Survivor and my attempts were between the ages of 18 and 21 I had a rough time of it. It was for many reasons but one was because I was scared to go to college at that time and my parents were forcing me to go and I didn't want to and I thought that that was the only way out but as I said it was also for many other reasons as well I was lost completely. The third time I was in ICU they had to pump my stomach and I don't have any recollection of any of it but I woke up to my family doctor that said those two people outside who are my parents are too old to deal with this whatever you're going through you're going to have to deal with it and get out of what you are depressed about and I never forgot his words. He's still my physician to this day and tells me how proud he is of me for how far I've come I'm 54 now. I still deal with major depressive disorder, PTSD and adjustment disorder. I was just put on Prozac which I'm hoping is a good medication for me to be honest the oldest medication for depression out there and my best friend takes it and my husband's cousin takes it and they both swear by it so I'm hoping it is a good fix for me. I was in my latest depressive episode for four long years since before covid until about 2 weeks ago. I see a glimmer of light at the end of the tunnel where I'm digging myself out of depression at this moment. Please hang in there don't do anything harsh and be kind to yourself. If you don't know this you are worthy you are enough and you are fearfully and wonderfully made by God and he makes no mistakes. Wishing a peace and well-being. Please keep in touch with me and let me know how you're doing.
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