My sorrow about mother's Day has been lightened by this community

[Montana136]

Hello all I posted yesterday morning my sorrow about mother's day. My daughter chose to leave on her summer vacation on mother's day. I felt very rejected overlooked redundant. I thought I might die on mother's day but after listening to this community I feel much uplifted and I have chosen to spend mother's Day celebrating my mother with her. I knew when I posted that expressing my sorrow in hearing all of your responses I would feel much better. And it happened. Still going to be kind of a sad day for me but I'm not going to think suicidal thoughts and I'm not going to die. Thank you all so much for your stories your advice your support your kindness I truly feel blessed. Still sad but much more blessed!! Thank you all take care of yourselves and be well. ✌️❤️🌈

[Agora1]

Hi Montana136, Mother's Day is not all it's cracked up to be for all. Breakfast

in bed, children all around you is a beautiful Hallmark scene but it doesn't

happen to all of us.

None of us are given a manual in how to be a good mother. We learn as we go

down that path. Most of us have made "Love" handle the ups and downs of raising

a child. Some of us have fallen short because we weren't taught by our own moms.

This is your special day coming up, whether the child(ren) are there or not, be proud

of who you are and that you have the most important job in the world being a Mother.

Happy Mother's Day from one mom to another xx

[Xene in reply to Agora1]

I never got a cup of tea in bed let alone breakfast! 😂 I think it’s way too commercialised nowadays 🤷‍♀️

[Agora1 in reply to Xene]

Me either xx

[Montana136 in reply to Agora1]

Hello agora1, yes I didn't have a mom she was always working I learned to parent by what not to do that my mother did, parenting with the idea of what I thought I wanted to have in my life as a child, and I parented by reading books and following my gut. I really did the best I could until I had a severe episode of depression and anxiety. I think I am going to actually write myself a nice mother's Day card spend time with my mom and do something nice and enjoyable for myself. I feel much better everyone is so supportive and encouraging. You guys give me great ideas and I feel so much better now. Take care of yourself and be well

[Agora1 in reply to Montana136]

xx

[Midori]

I know how you feel. Kids! They can be totally thoughtless. But maybe she'll send you something in the post to make up for it.

Cheers, Midori

[punkster]

I'm sorry to hear about your daughter. I have quiet a few self-centered people in my family, including my older son. He and his wife are hosting a friend for mother's day because she will be running in a marathon. To make things worse, my husband is in the hospital about to have some heart work done. Granted, my son lives about 2 1/2 hours away, but he has no plans to come visit. He told me he is also busy the next weekend. I told him that he better hope his father doesn't die and ruin his plans. My younger son, on the other hand, is one of the most compassionate people on the face of the earth. He had plans to come and visit to support me and to be there for his father's surgery, however, he was recently exposed to Covid and doesn't know if he should come. He also lives 2 1/2 hours away. I don't know what to do about my older son at this point in time. I can gently point out that he should be there to support me and his father, but the point doesn't seem to get through. It's sad, but I know there are a lot of other people out there like me. I'm proud of you for not giving in to suicidal thoughts. No matter how other people treat you, you are special and worth it!