Success is…

[Starrlight]

I so believe and love this! Life is messy. Do it the best you can and that’s good enough.

[mrmonk]

Boy, did I ever need to hear this today! I believe a feeling of fulfillment is success, but that success is not necessary for fulfillment. Such an encouraging post, Starrlight, thanks! 😺

[Starrlight in reply to mrmonk]

Hi Mr. Monk! I think success means so many different things to different people. Success to me is more attainable for me as I get older and understand better what my limitations and strengths are and compare myself to only my past self, instead of comparing myself to others. For me, if I try something but fail, it’s only a half- fail- so a success! - because the just trying without giving up is succeeding in my book.

[mrmonk in reply to Starrlight]

I like your insight about comparing yourself to your past self, rather than to other people. Seeing progress and that I am capable of evolving is a buttress to hope. I still compare myself to others, though, because it helps me to understand them (and me) better if I see them in relation to myself.

[Starrlight in reply to mrmonk]

Oh yeah so much hope when we believe we can keep growing. I really like what you say about seeing others in relation to yourself, for understanding , yeah, that makes sense.

[Agora1]

I so agree with your post Starrlight...Such a positive uplifting post

Thanks for the reminder xx

[Starrlight in reply to Agora1]

☺️

[peacefulandcalm]

thank you Starrlight, <3

[Starrlight in reply to peacefulandcalm]

You’re welcome Peacefulandcalm. Hope you are well.

[Hb2003]

love this Starrlight you always give good advice and knowledge ☺️🙏

[Starrlight in reply to Hb2003]

Aww ☺️ Thanks Hiba! Love ya ❤️

[Hb2003 in reply to Starrlight]

your welcome love ya too ❤️☺️

[Starrlight in reply to Hb2003]

(((((((((((((((((((((((huge hug))))))))))))))))))))))

[LifeIsThePitts]

I can't believe how many times I've started over and over & OVER again 🤭🤫but it's not about how many times you step up to the starting line, it's that you never quit. My line has looked different every time...I hope this time I stop putting up my own roadblocks🤣😉

Thanks for this message today ☯️🙏 🍄

[Starrlight in reply to LifeIsThePitts]

Oh yeah I totally agree…as long as we don’t give up on us we are succeeding …I sometimes think things out so much that I make my own roadblocks like you say but the first step is being aware, which we are, now to get to that starting line and follow through…

[LifeIsThePitts in reply to Starrlight]

Learning to channel my energy and thoughts 💭 to focus on the solutions VS my problems has shown incredible momentum. I didn't realize how MUCH my focus was misaligned to my higher thought processes. Primal me was hijacking logical me right out of the picture 🤣

[Starrlight in reply to LifeIsThePitts]

I love this! Solutions vs problems. Ha primal oh yes I think I have a lot of that going on.

[EndUser13 in reply to LifeIsThePitts]

This! Yes! It's good to acknowledge problems and understand them... so you can figure out if they can be solved and how. I am trying so hard not to dwell and often remind myself "solutions, not problems", because wasting my energy on frustrations is pointless. I'd rather try positivity than dwell on what's not working.

[LifeIsThePitts in reply to EndUser13]

These are the kinds of conversations and interactions that I was hoping to have here. Real issues with real solutions and first hand experience from others so we can cultivate our curiosity about ourselves to delve further into the issues in our lives beyond this community sounding board.

[Thankfulforhelp22]

Preach sister!!!😀😀😀👍🏾

[Starrlight in reply to Thankfulforhelp22]

☺️😆😌

[melbrown]

Like Mr. Monk I needed to hear this too. In-laws are staying the night... our place isn't spotless... I'm already stressed on top of my normal anxiousness & stressed self. I need to realize it's our home, my husband & I are busy people... and it's fine.Lots of love, hugs & peace dear one.💗💗💗

[mrmonk in reply to melbrown]

I'm experiencing in-law stress this week, too; different circumstances, but I can relate.

[melbrown in reply to mrmonk]

Hope the stress is not to bad. Mine are coming down for a baseball game tomorrow & are heading back home after. Think I'll try to come up with a self care award for after.

[Starrlight in reply to melbrown]

Those are some great positive words to give yourself…and it IS fine… I am having a friend over in the near future and the house is always not a spotless house … and I’m too tired to clean so far… so be it. Stress and anxiety alone are so hard to cope with and I think can make us see situations as way more terrible than they are. Remember that while we are stressed it truly seems bad but is not as dirty as it seems.

Do you get along well with them? I hope you can enjoy them.

[melbrown in reply to Starrlight]

I basically get along with my in-laws... the last time they were down my mother-in-law basically made a comment to me that we should get a maid, so I know that's part of the stress. I knew they were coming down... going to a baseball game tomorrow, but I thought they were staying at a hotel... so more cleaning then I thought. Yup- stress & anxiety take a lot from us... going to take a long bath tomorrow night (after they leave).

[Starrlight in reply to melbrown]

That’s tough. It’s hard not to let a comment like that influence. I think it’s a really great idea that you have a plan to take care of yourself after they leave.

[Marysblue]

Love this!

[Hidden]

Love this Starr, makes such great sense and worthy of going on my frig as a daily reminder. Thank you for posting it. 👍

[Starrlight in reply to Hidden]

Yaaay so glad it’s helpful to ya!

[SayNOtoPanic]

Messy hair, cool shirt, head up high. 💪🏻luv this Starr!!

[Starrlight in reply to SayNOtoPanic]

Ha! Yes SayNotoPanic!

[Renizzle2023]

"Try and fail. And still succeed." Yes!

My counselor and I decided a good motto for me is "the success is in the attempt."

All the best.

[Starrlight in reply to Renizzle2023]

Exactly! ☺️

[LifeIsThePitts in reply to Renizzle2023]

YAASSSSSS!! Try try and try some more 🤣

[Mumbutterfly]

Thank you for sharing. I needed this today.

[Starrlight in reply to Mumbutterfly]

Hi Mumbutterfly no problem. How are you doing?

[Mumbutterfly in reply to Starrlight]

I’m struggling. That’s why I needed to see your post. I kept reminding myself of it all day at work and it helped. I’m trying so hard and have been for so long and it doesn’t seem like anything really helps. Your post reminded me that not giving up is success in and of itself.

I’m not going to hijack your thread by going into details but would like to send you a pm.

[Starrlight in reply to Mumbutterfly]

Sure you can write here or in a pm, whatever you feel comfortable with.

I’m really sorry you are struggling. You not giving up makes you a success.

[Mumbutterfly in reply to Starrlight]

I sent you a message but I have to work 12 hour shifts tonight and tomorrow night, and then a day shift on Monday and another overnight shift on Wednesday and then a new work week will start so I don’t know when I’ll be able to see or respond to any reply you might make. Thanks again for your encouragement.

[Teaching]

I love it too

[Starrlight in reply to Teaching]

yaaay 😆

[Perriex]

What a blessing I caught this post. It made me feel better. I won't give up ...Thank you.

💫💜💫