Today is a “good day”, but not all of them are. I’ve battled depression my entire life - I’ve gone through a lot of trauma and have never really sought help in times of need because my pride has always got in the way. I’m probably in my darkest state of depression where I know if one thing tipped the wrong way I would not be able to take it anymore.
I’ve had to set my stubbornness to the side - to the point where I have had no choice but to rely on others to help me through. Asking for help is not eat. I want to celebrate the small things like waking up on time, showering, getting something done at work but I feel like a pain and that I’m pestering people for celebrating these typical mundane tasks. Curious what you do to celebrate those small but huge accomplishments, those steps to “getting better”? Do you talk to friends (don’t have any of those at the moment)? This support group?
Desperately seeking ways to celebrate small victories and rebuild my life. Going to take advantage of this “good day”.
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I Congratulate myself on small achievements too. Motivation is a problem for me. I do tell this support group sometimes. It does seem embarassing to need to celebrate the mundane, but we owe it to ourselves. We could also write it down in a diary.
well as a coach and a competitor meaning u have to hack out the long long journey of training alone and ...........i can attest to the aloneness of the slog back but ..ur not a bother ....go ahead a celebrate anyting ......had to rehab legs and learn to walk again three times alone and have the family who thinks mini rewards are for lesser mortals........not............as they just sit and bark orders.........
u go ahead a celebrate but put gold stars on ur calender..........i dont care what it is...they are stepping stones and fix rewards..........ur success is every day ....every yard of gain.....not just the touh down..........ur diong it so someday u will be there for someone in ur shoes..........and need a human non critcal neibhor.......ur empowering urself for someone in the future who is alone and freindless...........by god .........ull be three i spades...........also ....build an inspiration board........pictures of what u admire and or people...........and it helps most of us..........they will cheer u on when no one else does.............u aint ...........a burden..............athletes work together to
get eah other back..............just how it is.........its hard not being near a hundrede percent....meaning omg just geting going...........ya but older athelees seen this a miion time.........6 months a uear.........u will be rocking..........trust me u aint a burden..........better woirk with u than divas that care aboiut no one...........ill do the same thing.....suffer from the same thing.................need some inspiration.............we will help ea ch other................thats what real neibors do........
Hi Mandapanda! I mentally tell myself good job! I have one friend I talk to about literally everything daily. I have made two friends via support groups that have helped me through some of the hardest times in my life. With my health, marriage, everything... Friends don't have to be in person. I journal to keep track of my ups and downs, it helps me identify my triggers. I recently got back into therapy. That's helping tremendously. A lot of people don't understand how important taking a shower is, but when you are in the position where depression is a huge part of your life... Taking a shower, brushing your hair, changing your clothes- those simple things are actually pretty big. When I video with my friend she will say, "Yay! You fixed your hair today and you're wearing different clothes! Go you!" It's pretty nice. Those things are encouraging. If you ever want to talk, dm me 😊 A support system is really important to have while maneuvering through this journey.
I use the 3 Good Things app every night to record 3 good things I did that day. Sometimes those things are very simple, like I went outside or I did some laundry. Once I get going, I usually think of more than 3 things and it makes me feel better 😊
Obviously there is support on here, which is helpful, but do you have a therapist to talk to? I know it's hardest to reach out during our lowest times. I have been there. I'm in my 60's and have been dealing with depression and anxiety my entire adult life. I'm doing well mentally right now due to a wonderful therapist and having had TMS. A few years ago became treatment resistant to meds. Have been hospitalized a few times which helped at the time getting the help I needed. I have a couple friends I can talk to as well.
My son (my carer), Tells me I'm also too independent for my own good. I keep testing myself in order to try to keep my independence. I'm 74.
For instance, I had a nosebleed (quite a lot) on Friday, so I rested and did the minimum around the house.
Saturday, I went to the store (can see it from my bungalow, just a few things to get), Got into the store, got my magazines and papers, then got some bananas and Whoosh! Massive nosebleed out of nowhere!
Blood on the floor, on me, and I was going through tissues like there was no tomorrow!. Cornered an employee and asked them to clean it, as I didn't want anyone slipping in it, They took me to the cafe, sat me down and got me some more tissues and a glass of water, then called out the store's First Aider for me. Oh boy, did I feel like an idiot! ( I used to be a nurse, and I taught many folk the First Aid at Work Course in later years.) Getting old is a Nuisance!
They called my son out, which was further embarrassment, as he was having a sleep in as he had had a very late night Friday! He got the rest of the goods I wanted,and he slowly walked me back home, then gave me a big telling off. Stubborness can be the wrong thing!
Sunday I had another nosebleed, so I think it's a trip to the doctor!
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