Who has been ghosted by a long term friend as a result of a manic episode?Ghosted by a lifelong childhood friend of 44yrs. Obviously we have had issues over the years but worked them out.
I had a horrible manic episode 2yrs ago. Long story short, my last text was a, "haven't heard from you lately; let's catch up"
Told me to call sometime. It feels like I'm calling with my list. I'm really thinking I don't want to chase after her. She knows she dumped me.
Man, It's a tough one. Being ghosted is a crappy thing to do to someone. I have to admit that I'm guilty of it myself. Unfortunately it's become commonplace, and way too easy, to ghost someone in the age of modern technology. I've never been ghosted due to a manic episode but I have definitely been ghosted due to other mental health issues, such as depression and anger management issues. My son, for example, has ghosted me for the last 3 years because it's easier for him to do so rather than deal with our problems.
The last buddy I had, I've known him for the last 10 or 15 years, ghosted me and when I recently bumped into him in our neighborhood I got the.... "Give me a call sometime, we'll get together". It was an insult to my intelligence but I guess he struggled with something better to say.
As someone who's done the ghosting, I can say that, at least for me, it doesn't come from a place of disdain for the other person. I have a childhood friend who, yeah, she struggles with mental health issues, which can be difficult to maintain a friendship with, but also we're just not the same people we were in elementary school. It's bittersweet to lose a piece of my past, but we just don't have anything in common outside of growing up together and shared traumas. Even without your manic episode, it's possible that you and your friend would have drifted. We center ourselves in people's lives, but the truth is they're fighting their own battles that we can't see. Give your friend grace, and give yourself grace. You're both growing.
Hi car103, I am a nearly 75 year old woman. I went through my entire school life from 5 - 15, without a single friend. 3 years after leaving school I met a girl 3 years older than me who had been at my school for some of the same time I was there. We struck up a friendship, worked together, went to each others weddings, became Godparents to each other's children, and travelled to California on holiday together, we supported each other in every way we could. My friend was often ill with type 1 diabetes, I had various complaints, stroke, cancer, heart. Our friendship continued for more than 35 years, we were very close more like sisters neither of us had. One day I recommended a service to her, which went wrong, my friend cut me off. I cannot put the hurt into words, but am sure you understand how I hurt. I spent the following 10 years trying to patch things up and couldn't - in 2001 on a Saturday morning I had a telephone call to say my friend had died. I was gutted. Her husband asked if I would officiate at her funeral (I am a minister of religion) That was the last act of love I could show my friend. Normally if I read a post such as yours today, I would suggest you do your utmost to heal your rift, and that nothing is beyond repair. However on reading again about what has happened to you, I feel there is not much hope of reconciling, and perhaps it would be more helpful if you put this down to her fears of your condition a manic episode can be extremely scary for anyone and maybe this is what has caused this change of heart. Remember the good times you shared, and get on with your life, this will probably mean making new friends. But don't let this time of dis-ease mar the rest of your life.
If your friend said for you to call then surely thats a good thing. Maybe she just doesnt like texts or has gone off them. I know I have felt like that at times in my life. Ive just wanted a genuine conversation instead of feeling trapped behind texts. Maybe she feels the same. Just one perspective 🤔
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