How many would say this is sadly the case for themselves?

[Shanm2]

This kept going through my mind today.

[Broadwayfan91]

This. It took me years to realize that yes i needed therapy as a child but my parents who are large reason why im in therapy to this day needed it too.

[Shanm2 in reply to Broadwayfan91]

Yes! I relate with that soo much! Hope therapy is helping and healing for you. Take care

[Agora1]

Hi Shanm2, Your post is very true. Life is about situations we find ourselves in

which are not always are doing. And so we go to therapy to learn how to accept

what we cannot change. xx

[Shanm2 in reply to Agora1]

So, so ture! Also to learn healthy coping mechanisms with dealing with the things that happen to us. Hope you are doing okay

[car103]

This is so true. Related, growing up my parents had a mantra: Don't burn your bridges. This meant no matter what awful thing someone has done, forget it because you might need them someday.

Thankfully I got away from that house and burned bridges of truly damaging people. Those people weren"t allowed back over that bridge to do further harm.

Plenty of therapy for me.

[Shanm2 in reply to car103]

Your parents mantra sounds very toxic, if you don't mind me saying.

The famous one i'm always hit with is "but thats still your family, mother, father etc" - it's taking me so deep therapy to unfold from this.

But i'm so happy to know you broke the pattern and got away from those people and put hard boundaries in place after and still stick to it.

I'm glad your in therapy and that its helping you! Wishing you all the best of luck

[designguy]

Oh yes, very true.

[Dusty-20016]

Hi Shanm2! How are you doing! I LOVE THIS!! I’ll be stealing this if you don’t mind. I’m only here a short time and have enjoyed meeting all these new people. I look forward to talking to you soon. I’m around all the time if you ever want to talk! Talk soon!

[Agora1 in reply to Dusty-20016]

This is a good one isn't it Dusty?? It really makes you think xx

[Dusty-20016 in reply to Agora1]

Hi Agora!! How are you? Yes, it is a good one! I took a picture of it so I’ll have it to look back on and also send it to friends I know would appreciate it.

[Shanm2 in reply to Dusty-20016]

I'm really happy you found this helpful also! Stay strong ♡

[Shanm2 in reply to Dusty-20016]

Hey Dusty! I'm hanging on in there, how about yourself?

Im glad and sorry that you can relate to this! Please feel free to steal it all you like!

I'm glad you've met new people, in your short time here! This site has become my saviour in times of dispair.

Thank you for your reply and the same goes to you if you ever feel like you need to talk I hope your well and are doing okay! Wishing you all the best ♡

[Dusty-20016]

Thanks! Look forward to talking to you soon!!🙂

[Dusty-20016]

Hi! How are you doing? Just checking in to say hi, and hope all is well!!

[Shanm2 in reply to Dusty-20016]

Hello Dusty! Thank you for checking in! Its much appreciated. I am doing well, or perhaps just surviving the best i can 😀 Hope all is well with you!

[Dusty-20016 in reply to Shanm2]

Hi! I’m stealing thst line too! “I am doing well, or perhaps just surviving the best I can!” Hope all is well with you! I’m doing okay. Have had a few little problems pop up, and I’m surprising myself! I’ve handled things much better than I would have before. I can’t control whss as t I can’t control!!

[Shanm2 in reply to Dusty-20016]

By all means, if it helpful steal way! , i'm glad that you're doing okay, and sometimes okay, is more than enough 😌 and go you for surprising yourself on how you handled those problems that arised! (Give yourself a little praise for that!) I try to reinforce the statement of; "you are capable of more than you think you are and that you have strength inside of you that you wouldn't think you have"

But more than that i hope that when the year is done and we'll be going into the new one, that you will look back and be proud and grateful to yourself and how you handle things better in the last year!

I'm so happy that you have done this and "surviving the best you can" 😉

Stay strong, and take it easy, you've got this!

[Dusty-20016 in reply to Shanm2]

Thank you very much! I like your quote! May have yo steal this one too, lol!! 😊😊😊😊😊😊😊

Hope all is well with you!

[Shanm2 in reply to Dusty-20016]

At this rate you might need a note book, i've got so many quotes i go by 😆 and all well is with me, You made the day that little bit better, so thank you!

[Dusty-20016 in reply to Shanm2]

I’m glad I was able to make your day a little brighter!☀️ It’s funny because I do have a notebook with my own quotes and poems that I wrote years ago in my other life (happy). I can’t find my poem book anywhere!! It upsets me when I think about it, but it’s lost in the house somewhere. Maybe when I die my kids will find it and get it published!! How cool would that be?!?!

[Shanm2 in reply to Dusty-20016]

Oh i'm sorry that you can't find it, maybe you could write other ones for the chapter your heading in regardless if its happy or sad, its more people relating that would be the starting point. I find that more people relate to the happy, just as much to the sad. Words have power to heal for those who struggle with them You know, once when i was in therapy, i randomly said out loud "i could write a book on all of the dramas that happen around me" and i only meant it as a joke but my therapist replied with "why don't you?" And for some reason i just remember that 🤣

Hope your doing okay today! Best wishes

[Hidden]

I can finally say yes to this one! I saw it before but could never say yes to it! Now I can!

[Shanm2 in reply to Hidden]

Sorry you could relate, but i hope it was helpful!

[Hidden in reply to Shanm2]

In more ways than you know, my friend. Thank you!

[Shanm2 in reply to Hidden]

I'm so glad and happy to know that! Stay strong my friend!

[Hidden in reply to Shanm2]

Thanks! You as well!😊

[Agora1 in reply to Shanm2]

Hi Shanm2, This was one of those posts that warrant a second and third read. xx

[Shanm2 in reply to Agora1]

You know, i felt the same way at first, I read this some years ago, but only this year had it really hit me and it made me feel better about therapy and so i thought i'd post it.

I hope all is well with you and as always, it lovely to hear from you!