Partner left me after miscarriage and possible bad news about her reproductive system. I’m lost and all my greatest fears have come true .

[21grams_]

The woman Im in love with and wanted to marry broke up with me after she miscarried our baby that we planned for. She suffers from anxiety already which made the situation much more difficult for her. She also possibly got bad news about her reproductive system weeks after we lost our baby at an appointment. She stopper texting for a week after the day of the appointment until she decided to break up with me through text on Friday . I’m In a dark place, I want to contact her but don’t know what to do. I’ve never been so depressed or anxious in my life, I love her more than anything and miss her and I love and miss the child we wanted that we’ll never get to meet .

[21grams_]

Listen to her how? She says is to hard for her to be with me, I don’t know to how to cope with that.

[EspressoBeans]

If she needs some time, give her some time. It doesn’t have to be forever. Seeing you right now probably only reminds her of what you’ve both lost. But I don’t think that she will refuse to talk to you forever. Give it a month. I know that seems incredibly long, but it may be what she needs to heal. Then try reaching out again. But make sure she knows that you’re still here for her in the meantime.

[21grams_ in reply to EspressoBeans]

Thank you, I haven’t spoke to her since Friday or been on social media since. When should I text her and let her know that I love her and that I’m here for her in anyway I can be even if being there for her comes in the form of giving her space?

[EspressoBeans in reply to 21grams_]

That message is fine to send anytime, as long as you don’t expect a response. (I would make the message close-ended.) I would tell her that you love and support her and will be there for her when she’s ready.

[Agora1]

Hi 21grams, I agree with EspressoBeans in that the woman you are in love with has

gone through an incredible loss both with miscarriage as well as if she might have

gotten bad news regarding her reproductive health issue. More than it being anxiety

playing a part in this, I would say that it's more of a grieving issue as well as self esteem.

Many women as well as men alike, when told they may not be able to produce a child

feel they may be a failure to their partner.

I don't know what your woman has been told by the doctor.

Give her time, give her the space she needs to grieve and figure out what she

does from here.

Your love for her is going to play a big part in her recovery, but just not quite now.

I'd like to Welcome you to this support forum. I'm happy you reached out to us xx

[21grams_ in reply to Agora1]

Thank you all so much for your support, this has been the hardest 26 days of my life and dreaming is the closest thing I get to being happy and in her arms again. I’m tired of waking up in bad dream

[Agora1 in reply to 21grams_]

I understand your heartache right now 21grams. It's difficult for both of you.

Love is a powerful emotion, physically, spiritually and emotionally. She will eventually need your arms around her as well. Stay Positive my friend. xx

[21grams_]

Last time she vented she expressed all her fears and concerns for the future. She addressed Our loss, the fear of it happening again, not being able to give birth, me giving up on her and not wanting her anymore, me cheating, or her ruining everything. If she got bad news at her appointment that may have been the last straw

[Agora1 in reply to 21grams_]

21grams, it sounds like she told you exactly what she needs right now.

Love her by supporting her wish right now. xx

[21grams_]

Thank you, I just feel so broken. I need my family, this woman and our angel were my world. Now all I have is her and she’s gone

[Hidden]

Tell her all this. She needs to hear it and needs to know you still love her whether she can have a baby or not. Try fighting for her. She is hurting and needs you to be there for her during her time of loss. Tell her that you love her and want to be there for her and that you still want to marry her. She needs your reassurance that you still love her no matter what. Send flowers, words of love and encouragement. Give her time to heal and time to process the loss. Its such a hard thing for a woman to go through...tell her she doesn't have to go through it alone. Then wait...that is the hardest part.

[Kev2867]

Addressed cheating as in she thought you might or you already have?

[21grams_ in reply to Kev2867]

Addressed as of it could happen since she’s dealt with those scenarios many times in the past