How did you find support?

[imnotthere]

It's the loneliness that hurts the most. How can so many people unanimously agree that I am not good enough to be there friend? I must be defective. I didn't have depression the whole time either. We had good times. But then I'm ghosted. I don't get it. I need help.

How do other people have such great support systems and people around them? Do they ask for help differently? I get so annoyed in group therapy when people mention the support they have. It's jealousy. How do they find good people?

I keep trying to lift up a long distance friendship by being really proactive and entertaining for them, always asking them questions about themselves. But it's never reversed. They don't initiate ever. I tell them I am having a bad day and they say they have it worse. There's no respect. Yet I keep trying because they respond. I'm desperate. Obviously I need new people. But that's impossible now. I'm in a new state, not knowing anyone, stuck.

I wonder what other people have done to combat loneliness.

[Mary-intussuception]

Hi

Welcome to the group.

Hope you find support here.

May I ask - is your wife working? Or are you both presently unemployed?

[imnotthere in reply to Mary-intussuception]

she works at home, but it's a lot. very busy.

[Mary-intussuception in reply to imnotthere]

She's too busy to talk ?

[Sodown]

Does your wife communicate with you

[Hippyhippo]

I think this all the time! People are too busy with their heads in their phones to be bothered with anything beyond their periphery. I wish I had some words of wisdom...body scan and loving kindness meditations have been helpful to me at times. Keep on keeping on!

[thara9643]

Mostly online

[FearIsALiar]

You are good enough. YOU ARE MORE THAN ENOUGH ❤️😊

Don’t be so hard on yourself. How people treat you meanly has nothing to do with you.

[Musicever]

Me too here same exactly