Its OK !

[gerrerd]

Everything will change.

[Lali2018]

Amen 😘

[gerrerd in reply to Lali2018]

Keep safe sweetheart xx

[Lali2018 in reply to gerrerd]

Thank you, you too💕

[gerrerd in reply to Lali2018]

xxxx

[melbrown]

Thanks Ray. I really needed to hear this, especially now. This shelter in place has been very hard (like everyone) & stirring up a lot for me. Hard to ignore the abandonment problems I have, especially when you can't be with friends. This is advice I need to hear. Thanks again. Hope you are well.

[gerrerd in reply to melbrown]

Yes thanks, things will change ! keep strong Ray xx

[Shnookie]

Bon soir mon ami. C'est Shnookie. I comprehend what U R writing. But I have seen certain catastrophic things in my life take a chunk out of one's soul. As I have mentioned in previous posts, My father, aunt and my grandparents were Jewish survivors of the Holocaust. A hellacious event if there ever was one. My grandmother after the war and what I saw growing up as a child to womanhood had terrible survivor's guilt. I was told in the beginning after the war was over, she cried every night in her sleep. Then on Friday nights, when my family congregated to have a meal to start the Jewish Sabbath, my grandmother would light candles as is our tradition to welcome in the Sabbath and bless her family. This is what most women did. Unfortunately, every time she would weep inconsolably in Yiddish, a language consisting of German, Hebrew, Russisan and Polish among others that was often the first language of many Jews before the start of WWII. She would wail and ask for their forgiveness because she could not save them from the Nazis and their imminent deaths. Now my grandmother came to the U.S. with no money and worked like a dog in a sweatshop.

She learned English and loved her family dearly. One thing she kept was her blind faith to God. It helped her get thru things in life. I'm not saying that she did not go on with her life but the trauma that she went thru always permeated her soul. Now we have COVID and its decimation of humans. I recently saw on TV a case of a Latino man (Hispanics R hit particularly hard with COVID) who had lost 7 members of his family to the Corona virus. I'm not saying that this man will not go on with his life. Hopefully with time, therapy and family support part of his soul will heal and obviously we don't want the aspect of

COVI-19 to overtake his life but I'm sure when U R going thru such hell that is the focus of your life. All of us during this trying time in the world need to support each other like we do in this group and try to find happiness and joy in little and larger events. And of course we need to be resilient and not let the evil of this disease take our souls. Even on the hard days, we must try to push forward with the hope that tomorrow will be a better day and wake up in the morning and do little things like I am trying to by listening to the Bee Gees disco music and dance around the house to get our day going on a positive note.

Hugs S I'm here 4 U

[gerrerd in reply to Shnookie]

Its not what happens to us its how we react to it. its happened so we cant do anything about that ! So I live in the now, letting the past go ! as for the virus, nothings changed for me I dont fear it I not worry about it, I too have had dramatic events in my life sexual abuse by a Doctor from 7 to 17, PTSD finding a old man next who had just hung himself at the age of 7 and more ! but I cant change that, because there is only now and I can only change my thinking thats were my power is, Ray xx

[Shnookie in reply to gerrerd]

I totally understand what U R saying and truly know that about all of us have suffered trauma in their lives. U R so lucky that U have acquired the tools to get thru the hellacious parts of your life and gone on to live a life with a definitely positive purpose.

I love the writings that you send to us. It gives me food for thought and introspection and is a positive part of my life. Have a pleasant evening.

hugs shnookie

[gerrerd in reply to Shnookie]

Thanks Darling xxx

[Hidden in reply to Shnookie]

My ex boyfriend was raised Jewish, I know the Holocaust is something they will always feel deeply. His mother gave me a book to read titled Fateless which is a man's true account of his experience being in a concentration camp and then eventually being released. I did read it, that is something that has to be so difficult to try to process and move on from. My great grandmother came here from Poland, before she died about 5 years ago, my grandmother talked to me in depth about growing up during the Great Depression and her childhood. This pandemic going on is the strangest thing to live through. In some ways we will never be the same. But I'd like to believe that we all are going through some kind of transformation and that it will lead to better days. It's cute that you're trying to stay positive and dancing around to the Bee Gees disco music. I really like Donna Summers music from that time as well, like her song On the Radio. Do you ever go to YouTube and look up songs??? They have a lot of the classic songs on there. Take care!!!🙂

[Shnookie in reply to Hidden]

Great text. Different people have different reactions to extreme trauma

in their lives I know people whose

Families went thru the depression. It was a very difficult time 4 so

Many people food lines like today.

I watch my music on my iPhone almost every day. I have fond memories of

watching Thank God it’s Friday a classic

disco 💃🏼 movie and Donna Summer is

singing Last Dance 💃🏼! Fabulous.

I used music therapy with my client who had severe dementia. I would play everything from Scottish music

she grew op with to See U later

alligator. We danced to this. It always made her happy.

Hugs 🤗 Shnookie

[Hidden]

Good post, thank you. I'm trying not to become cold and bitter, but I have to deal with a dad who is very abusive in a lot of ways- not physically of course but I become a mental health mess around him. My mom enables him. They do things to show how much they want me out of their house and then they will profess that they care about me and they aren't against me. If I get upset and try to speak out about how I'm being treated, I'm always viewed as the one who's out of line. I'd love to move out of here but I have nowhere to go. They even make threats to kick me out. My mom tells me I'm not flexible enough when I try to set a boundary. It's no wonder I feel suicidal and like I'm going crazy a lot of the time. Sorry, I didn't mean to go on like that, but I don't want to become like them and at the same time these are my parents and I've been programmed through them and I think sometimes unconsciously I might act like them and it bothers me. They like me better when I don't speak and when I do things for them. I can't be myself around them, they have never accepted me just the way I am.

[Shnookie in reply to Hidden]

It’s sad that U R in your position now and R only accepted when u act in a certain way for your parents to accept U. When my father was alive this often happened to me.

I’m in your corner and hope 4 U that U can find a way to leave your house

Hugs 🤗 M

[Hidden in reply to Shnookie]

Thank you for your support!!! I just don't know how to get out of here. My mom is usually nicer to me, I was very surprised last night to hear her telling me I should go find somewhere else to live. And she knows I don't know where to go. In one sentence she will say how much she loves me and that no one in the family hates me, then a minute later she's telling me go live somewhere else. She pretends to be so nice and then she's cruel. I feel like she's my dad's puppet.

[Likeabadstorm]

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