Freedom from helplessness

[joyrestored]

does anyone know how to get past learned helplessness? Just feeling like you cant do anything for yourself.

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Hi that’s a good question and something I am struggling with too. By learned helplessness do you mean from having people tell you that you can’t accomplish anything? Or more like negative self-talk?

I am struggling to convince myself that I can change my life and outlook for the better. Not sure how much progress I am making, but my tactic is “learn by doing.” Have set a modest goal for myself and try to keep taking small steps toward it.

The first step was purchasing my first smartphone last year and learning how to use it. Believe it or not that was a huge thing for me!

[joyrestored in reply to Hidden]

Hi Phil, yes a little bit of both. Or always needing to ask someone for help when you just couldve figured it out by yourself.

[Hidden in reply to joyrestored]

Well it's always nice to have someone you can talk things over with before making decisions. But ultimately we have to make the decisions ourselves and the only way I know to do that is just to do it. Nobody said it would be easy, but it must be do-able, because so many people do it!

Is there something that learned helplessness is holding you back from? A hurdle you are trying to get past? For me I have never applied for a job and got "real world" work experience. It is very scary to me, the idea of having a job... even a part time job. So that's my goal right now. I am still struggling with this a lot. Just trying to make a start and take small steps!

[joyrestored in reply to Hidden]

Oh wow, so do you work for yourself? and yes learned helplessness makes life difficult.