Getting anxious

[crisbal]

My spouse and I have had a very eventful year, in terms of our marriage. I learned that he lied to me about many things (no infidelity) and now I have trust issues. Anyway, he stopped wearing his wedding ring at the beginning of the year because he said he didn't like it anymore, so for our anniversary I bought him two new ones (they were inexpensive) 11th year = steel. He lost one and says he doesn't want to wear the other bc he's afraid he'll lose that one also (they're slightly big, which I offered to return but he rejected the idea). We'll, he seemed to not care about losing it or wearing it so I decided that I didn't want to wear mine either. He finally realized that I haven't worn my ring after over a month and is upset & calling me petty. Am I in the wrong? Sometimes it feels like this marriage really makes my anxiety worse.

[Agora1]

Hi crisbal....This is no longer about "the ring". xx

[marsdream]

Marriage takes work. Both individuals need to be invested in this partnership to make it work. Trust being broken is hard but you can recover from it. You said there was no infidelity so good, he has been faithful, but not honest. Talk to a marriage counselor. Work through the issues, learn to both trust each other again.

[pam4him]

I don't think this is about who is "right" or "wrong". There seems to be some communication issues that need to be worked out, and the rings have become outward physical signs of marriage problems. Does wearing his ring interfere with his job? My son's a mechanic and only wears his when he's not working. He got a silicone ring to wear at work so he doesn't have to worry about it getting scratched, breaking, etc. Your situation appears deeper than just rings. Perhaps some marriage counseling would help sort through the trust issue. Prayers for wisdom and guidance.