How do people reach out to talk to others?

How do people reach out and talk to others if they need someone just to listen to them? I find it so hard to talk about me when I really really need to. I often am there for others but dont open up. I rarely feel so comfortable with anyone to do it. But when I do (like in therapy) I feel such a release. I know others like the fact Im a good listener and care but how do I find the same from others? I often see it as other's job to make me feel safe enough to do that. I need lots of reassurance that its ok to reach out but theres only ever been a couple of friends in my life Ive ever experienced that with. It seems most dont perceive how much I need to talk and how much I need reassurance to be able to do that.

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Are you still friends with the ones you can talk to, if you're friends with someone try and look at their behaviors their persona, you'll know if they're trust worthy and understanding especially when the subject is mental health, I hope that helps

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Yes and no. One doesnt talk to me (its really sad). She is my friend's mum and was very much like family to me. But then she misunderstood a ptsd episode I had and blamed herself and her daughter I think and now wont talk to me 'to prevent causing me problems'. I got so insecure and couldnt stop crying and I dont think she knew how to react. Ive tried explaining it wasn’t her fault but Ive got no response. I know its her loss, but its still sad for me 😞. I genuinely didnt expect that from them both when I opened up to them (I guess I can safely say I dont trust them in the same way now).

The other one is my friend still, yes, but I dont know how much to reach out. She is good and trustworthy, but its complicated.

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Maybe your friends aren't the right ones to listen.

I talk to my therapist and I work out. I don't have any friends so I don't know what it would be like to do that....but I have met nice people on here!

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Really difficult to find people who know how to listen. Empathy is not a common trait. People generally do not respect and have the ability to listen to someone and appreciate the areas when they are more delicate and need gentleness. Just not easy to find. I’m happy to listen anytime.