Tried hanging out with people.

[willowtree02]

Tried meeting up with a few friends tonight at the lake so we could properly social distance and I just really want to go home. I feel like no one likes me and I hate trying to make friends

[Hidden]

I know how you feel

[willowtree02 in reply to Hidden]

I’m so tired of being alone 😕

[Hidden in reply to willowtree02]

Me too! But if you ever want someone to talk to just PM me, i’m here for you! I know what it’s like❤️

[MCat22]

I know how you feel. I have the same feelings. But I have learned that my perception of how people feel about me is inaccurate. My life experience makes me believe that people will think the worst of me. But, that's not true. this is hard I know, but in order to feel comfortable around other people you have to figure out how to be comfortable with yourself. I struggle everyday, I am not saying that I have overcome this situation. But, I feel like I'm at the stage where I understand it. I have to learn to get over my socialization that I am not it is valuable as other people. That my feelings are as valuable as other people's feelings. I find that when I can accept myself, I can enjoy being around other people. What do you think? Do you think us has any basis in reality?

[Dave_H]

I know how you feel. I live alone, work from home, don't have any friends, and don't have a life. Loneliness is killing me (big surprise there, huh). When ever I am around people, which is what I think I want, I hardly speak because my self-image as a severely depressed person with no real interests I don't know what to say, and feel shameful about my condition. It's really a Catch-22. I have to work on this with my therapist because I am in dire need of socialization. However, as it stands now, whenever I am around people, I just want to leave. I am hopeful that with some good therapy and hard work I can get to the place the other poster talked about where they can at least understand it, then find ways to overcome it. As for making new friends, I'm a 55 year old male and, I feel partial shame in admitting this, I have no idea on how to go out and find friends. But I'm realizing that first I have to get over my hang up about my feelings of inadequacy and not belonging. Isolating when depressed is a definite no-no. We all need social connection, some more than others. As a person in recovery, I will share with you a phrase which is common; "Only an alcoholic cures loneliness by isolating". Best wishes.

[willowtree02 in reply to Dave_H]

Thank you so much for the response. It is terrible to feel alone but it’s always nice to know we’re not alone in how we’re feeling.